Lightmetoday Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I was a close friend with a girl & we developed feelings for EACHOTHER , she was a teenager, A month later she said we are only bestfriend , i felt angry but she comforted me saying she is teenager & love is confusing right now . I didn't break up with her but my feelings didnt go either. I remained her friend with those feelings still inside me & i felt heartbroken. Then she got another guy & told me about him, I felt more plunged into heartbreak, i left her finally, but feelings still remained & we were still friends.After 2 years still our friendship has developed she has no feelings for me , But my broken feelings still remain , it feels like a torture on me. Currently i can't break my friendship as we are very close. I can't heal my heart either after 3 YEARS !
Light Breeze Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Being friends while you are in love isn't going to work. It's pure torture. You say you can't break your friendship with her? Then you won't heal. Heartbreaks are bad enough, being constantly reminded of that is worse. Anyone here would tell you to go the NC route and heal. Tell her and she'll understand. Think about yourself man. Think about your emotional health. She made her choice to be with another, it's time for you too.... Be with yourself. Heal and learn from this experience, you will be allright. 1
Ronni_W Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Currently i can't break my friendship as we are very close. I can't heal my heart either after 3 YEARS ! If I read your post correctly, you are using your free will to CHOOSE to stay in a place (relationship) that you already know causes you suffering and emotional pain. Meaning that you've made a FREE WILL choice to self-punish, self-torture, sacrifice yourself and your own healing (so basically, self-masochism)...which runs into self-condemnation. You absolutely DO deserve to be and feel happy, free and joyous in your own life. It's a truth that we sometimes believe for everyone else but our own self. I would offer to perhaps start looking for articles or videos that seek to help to strengthen our own self-esteem/self-worth. Once you feel that you deserve to be healed and happy, then you most likely will find the strength to pursue that, instead of this situation. Hugs, and best of luck...and, Lightmetoday, I AM sending you Light today 1
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 Yes Ronni you are correct. My self steem is low, I feel like i am living her life . i am more concerned about her & i totally forgot who i am , I need to have some me time , I need my own space, I need to rediscover myself . That is what i will do , If she needs my help anytime as friend i may help her , But i wont recline to her to fix my problems , I will deal them myself ! 1
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