WonderKid Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I met this nice country-ish girl online in September. Around fall through winter, I always seem to get into some kind of relationship. I don't get it. And most do not last until December. Weird. But she was cool. Had a bit of a temper on her and was a semi control freak, but cool. She was married before, 23-years-old, and been through an abusive relationship. But she recovered well. Down the line of us dating, inevitably, I knew the fact that us growing up differently would obviously come to play; I'm an urban guy, grew up around drugs, guns, killings, shootings. And she grew up with a tough dad but otherwise her childhood was quite alright. But she is very vanilla. Her folks are on the religious side. And growing up (even though she's the black sheep of the family) they still placed her in a box. Girl didn't even know who the Spice Girls was. Wasn't even allowed to watch The Rugrats. But anyways, the dating went alright. She ended up staying with me a bit and I'm staying with her. She works a 3rd shift, 10 hour days. About last week she hits me with her truth. Saying--which is true--that she feels she doesn't have the "time" for dating. She works 4-5 days out the week and sometimes overtime too. So we'd barely hang out but when we did it was memorable. The thing that bothered her the most is that everytime she brought up the future I'd give her half-assed replies. She talked about marriage and kids. Like, where do I see the relationship going. She felt like I just want to date her forever and ever, but I told her: A) I am not bringing kids into the world and I can barely manage myself. B) I won't date somebody for 2-3 years and decide to put a ring on it. She really wants a family--the Whole Nine Yards. And at 23, no doubt she feels like her time is 'closing'. WTF? So let me get this straight. You don't have "time" to date, but you have time for marriage and kids? And how do those happen? Oh well. It was cool while it lasted. But I am not going to be pressured into all that. At 25, now I am at the age group where women want a guy that's willing to settle it all down or leave them alone. And it's tough these days to find women without kids. Looks like I'll just be a bachelor until my mid 30's. By that range, those mature women are more realistic and have some shreds of logic and rationality.
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