Nolan 93 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 (edited) Hello my gf of eleven months left me for her ex (First Love), which he left her before i came in the picture. So he wanted to find himself and enjoy being single for a little bit in december . Then about a month I come in the picture, he wants back in all of a sudden and she says Hell no you left me, we meet at work and we start to text here and there. Then of course we form a connection and in april on the third she asks me out, we had a beautiful and passionate relationship. She told me i was the best bf she ever had, of course I'm the guy who always tries to raise the bar. I supported her finically, treated her with respect, was understanding, I put herself before I, and I gave her unconditional love that simple. I paid for mostly everything in the relationship since she moved and was hard to find a job for awhile but she did down the road. I never complained about paying for a lot of things because i made decent money from my job. I even got a better job to support us, her ex was always broke, immature, had his mom even bought her xmas gift since he didnt work. Im guessing he told her "Ive changed" we all know that bull**** excuse. But I gave her 100% my all in the relationship and the eleven months flew by fast it was beautiful, and i mean it beautiful, I was so happy and no girl has made me this happy. I have always been with multiple women, but she made me quit my game and i wanted no one else but her. I even took care of her eight year old brother, no one gave him that much attention since his parents are divorced. I took him out to Chuck E Cheeses, got ice cream, bought him videogames, just be there for him and play with him, and I never had a brother but he was like one to me. I helped around the moms house, cut the grass, do the dishes, just be the best boyfriend i could be and leave a good impression on her family, and i did they loved me. We hardly got in arguments, we did everything together, we just couldn't get enough of eachother. Now all of that is a memory, one day when i was at work she went to the mall with a girl friend and she ran into her ex, and they talked for a bit. Thus making her get mixed feelings, and later coming over and saying she wanted a break. I knew she wanted to be with her ex, and i chased her down the road for a couple days, and she said "i didnt break up with you to get back with my ex" later that week she got back with him. I was crushed, how can we have a wonderful relationship and you want to throw it all away for an ex who left you. She couldn't let me down hard, she had to sugar coat the break up. She came on Sunday on the break up week to give me my house keys, and she stayed for forty minutes and we talked and she held me tightly, held my hand and squeezed and squeezed she cried and we just talked about our relationship and how much fun we had. She was giving me false hope and i wish she would have just given me the keys and left. Now its been three weeks since our break up and NC, I miss her so much, I miss sleeping with her, and it sucks we were supposed to have a wonderful xmas together we always talked about it. I wonder if she will ever come back, and if she ever thinks about me, after all she was my first love. Im 21 and she was 18. Im just upset she would rather choose an ex that hurt her, than a man who had unconditional love for her and did everything in his power for her and only her. I miss her and I would take her back because I have unconditional love for her and I can easily forget why she left, just the trust will have to be earned. Edited December 14, 2014 by Nolan 93 Add mre info
HurtGator Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 She will break up with her exgf again and she will come back to you. You better not take her back! 2
Author Nolan 93 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 She will break up with her exgf again and she will come back to you. You better not take her back! the break up is still fresh, guessing by the time if they don't work out it will have been several months, thats more than enough time for me to move on and forget about her. I can do this lol, thanks for the support!! 2
HurtGator Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 the break up is still fresh, guessing by the time if they don't work out it will have been several months, thats more than enough time for me to move on and forget about her. I can do this lol, thanks for the support!! I was in a similar situation with my exgf. I did everything for her and her family. I always helped them with stuff around the house or running errands. Then one day she dropped me like a sack of crap for what appears to be for someone else.
Author Nolan 93 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 I was in a similar situation with my exgf. I did everything for her and her family. I always helped them with stuff around the house or running errands. Then one day she dropped me like a sack of crap for what appears to be for someone else. She ever end up coming back man? It's sad how us humans can do that to eachother and some of us not being able realize what or who we have in front of us.
HurtGator Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 She ever end up coming back man? It's sad how us humans can do that to eachother and some of us not being able realize what or who we have in front of us. No she hasn't. Its been like 5 weeks now. I already moved on! It's her loss. 1
EgoJoe Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 You were probably the rebound my friend. Here's the rub though, you will be the comparison he has to face and there will be no comparison. Something to consider, love is not unconditional. Love is conditional. You can love from afar without being attached knowing full well it can't work and you deserve better. 1
BDL Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 You'll be the one that got away. Let her do what she wants to do. Let her go and find a girl who will respect and cherish you. The break up is still fresh and I'd imagine you'd do anything to be back together with her, but trust me, she is NOT WORTH IT! Cut contact, and work on moving on from her. You are a catch to the right person. 2
coolheadal Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Girl like this is doing whatever she wants too do. Doesn't care who she hurts in the process. Wake-up! See what's really going on and now your pushed to one side again for the Ex Lover! She has betrayed your trust in her! Once you loose that trust you should never under any circumstances allow her to come back into your life again! Move on! 3
todreaminblue Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I dont understand why she did this...very silly of her.....i am sorry and i feel for you.....you treated her well you had a wonderful relationship on the surface.....and thats what it was surface...she wasnt honest with you from the start....and i am sorry you had to find out like you did.....bad things happen to good people.....good people grow learn and become stronger...as you will .....bigger better brighter things for you ....i really hope that for you....best wishes...deb 1
Radu Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 You were the rebound ... and i think her relationship with him is part rebound as well. It will not last. She will come back, and you better be strong enough to say 'gtfo'.
Author Nolan 93 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 You'll be the one that got away. Let her do what she wants to do. Let her go and find a girl who will respect and cherish you. The break up is still fresh and I'd imagine you'd do anything to be back together with her, but trust me, she is NOT WORTH IT! Cut contact, and work on moving on from her. You are a catch to the right person. Yes I was the one who got away, and your right I will be someone else's rare "unicorn" lol, thanks for the support.
Author Nolan 93 Posted December 15, 2014 Author Posted December 15, 2014 You were the rebound ... and i think her relationship with him is part rebound as well. It will not last. She will come back, and you better be strong enough to say 'gtfo'. Yes I agree as well, he might be a rebound in the long run. Lets let time do its job ha. Thanks for the support.
Ieris Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Hope you feel better soon Nolan93! Going through the same as you, sucks knowing that you were just a rebound and there we are giving it 100%, total waste! I agree with the other members, kick her to the kerb when she comes crawling back. Don't let her walk in and out of your life as she wishes, she has no respect for you and things won't be the same anymore. You deserve so much better, get out there and find someone who adores you x 1
No Limit Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 Her "first love" took her back to stroke his ego and will cheat on her a few more times ("wanting to find yourself?"; guess what his incentive was for that!) before dumping her again. Just keep your manhood and refuse her when she comes crawling back.
apedrerov Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 You'll be the one that got away. Let her do what she wants to do. Let her go and find a girl who will respect and cherish you. The break up is still fresh and I'd imagine you'd do anything to be back together with her, but trust me, she is NOT WORTH IT! Cut contact, and work on moving on from her. You are a catch to the right person. I was going to reply but sometimes you read something so true that you just have to quote it. 1
Detectingfreak Posted December 16, 2014 Posted December 16, 2014 I was in the same boat with you about a year ago, but I dumped my ex. I paid for everything and spent 30K on my ex so I know how your situation feels. My ex made me change who I was. Now it is time for healing and for you to rebuild yourself and be single for awhile. I know being single sucks, but no girl should make you support them financially to be in a relationship. I learned that in the hard run and I hope you really take what I have to say and don't get back with your ex. Block her number, her facebook and avoid seeing her. Just think about you, and buy what you want to buy. Most importantly! Do what you love doing! Be who you are! I know it is an amazing feeling to sleep with a woman, but there are plenty more fish in the sea. The most important advice I can give to you right now is to go hangout with your friends and be social! That will take your mind off her. Just pay down whatever debt you have and do things you enjoy doing! I was also like you craving for attention, but soon the craving will go away after the breakup and you will reflect on all the stupid decisions you made and how you are better off. I did and I am a lot happier. Some woman manipulate men who have never been in their first relationship and it sounds like she was your first. Just remember to split everything 50/50 and never pay for a woman again. But most importantly, take the time to truly find yourself! Hangout-out with friends, get drunk, party, do wild things that your ex never let you do. Nothing involving breaking the law however. I am 25 and was with my ex from 22-24. I hope you take what I say and learn from your situation so you can get with a girl who finds you awesome and doesn't take advantage of you. 1
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