cptkurt Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 I'm getting pretty depressed about my life. This town I live in is kind of a ****hole, I don't make a lot of money, I just got overlooked for a promotion, and ever since my last girlfriend left me I've been [very] alone. I took to working a second job because of money and having nothing to do on the nights/weekends. I have zero friends. No prospective girlfriends. Not really meeting anyone new. I don't even know who I am anymore. There has to be more to life than work, chores, and masturbation. I'm so stressed out anymore that I have constant heartburn and I'm going to have to go back on Xanax. I'm really not thriving I'm just melting into a life that I don't love. Please tell me this isn't my new normal.
tryingtodealwithit Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 i've been through a similar thing since my ex left. very lonely. most of friends either moved away or "disappeared" in the months before the break up. the few people i know and are around don't go out of their way to make plans with me or invite me to things. it's hard, man. i don't have an answer for you. i'm just making the best of it (which admittedly isn't that good and i want far more from life). just keep trying to stay positive and keep faith that things will turn around. that's what i'm doing at least.
KBarletta Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 #1. Don't sit at home. Find places where people your age spend time: Gym, coffee shop, bar, museum, etc. Force yourself to start conversations, even if it'd not be something you normally do. Get a dog and take it to the park. Anything but sitting home. It will not help. 1
lil hoodlum Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 #1. Don't sit at home. Find places where people your age spend time: Gym, coffee shop, bar, museum, etc. Force yourself to start conversations, even if it'd not be something you normally do. Get a dog and take it to the park. Anything but sitting home. It will not help. I sometimes kinda envy smokers. Smokers smoking is kind of a social thing. I see co-workers, students, neighbors who smoke hanging out and chatting while they smoke. Seems like an easy way to get to know others. 1
sam_999 Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 same goes from me here no text no call no plans maybe i should have stayed with my cheater ex??
Arient Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I can understand your feelings, as I have gone through the "what is this file I'm living" moments, and heck, it would be a lie if I say that things are great now. But life itself rarely changes magically, if we don't do anything. So do some researches on Internet, list down the things/plans that sound plausible to change your situation. And start doing them. I'm not sure what will come as an outcome, but I think it will bring some new blood to your life. For friends, try to see if you want to join a class, or a club, or some charity organization? For girlfriends, the same thing, you have to widen your network by joining some groups, or else, see if online dating sounds okay for you I will also make my list today, let's see if I can kill this "dead while living" thing. 1
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