Lightmetoday Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 Here is a brief review of my story I fell in love (true love) with a friend who lives away.We meet hardly ones or twice a year I had my heartbroken but i stayed friend, meanwhile i tried to cure my heart , but my possesive & caring feelings didnt go away. I then minimized my contact with her, but i kept grieving over my heart. Then all of a sudden her life was struck with a huge calamity she had cancer but it was diagnosed. I went back to her & stayed friend but currently i am still not able to cure my heartbreak. I do care a lot for her , I often feel tense about her. Sometime i wish i could keep talking with her forever & maybe i still love her & then i realise i am still heartbroken & it makes me more tense , depressed. She like me still but she dont feel anything like i feel for her. As she is away we keep in touch by calls & messages.Whenever she call or text me , i feel very excited & happy.But when she don't then i am sad again. What should i do ?
Satu Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 You should concentrate on getting to a sense of peace and calm on the inside. The feelings you have are about you, not her. She's not causing them - you are. You need to understand and accept that. "These are my feelings, and I take responsibility for them," is where feeling better begins.
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 13, 2014 Author Posted December 13, 2014 You should concentrate on getting to a sense of peace and calm on the inside. The feelings you have are about you, not her. She's not causing them - you are. You need to understand and accept that. "These are my feelings, and I take responsibility for them," is where feeling better begins. Yes feelings are totally mine i understand but i am having difficult time accepting them . On one hand when i ask myself do you want to marry her ? I say no. But then i care a lot for her, keep thinking about her & i feel the sadness if she is sad for any reason.
Satu Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 Yes feelings are totally mine i understand but i am having difficult time accepting them . On one hand when i ask myself do you want to marry her ? I say no. But then i care a lot for her, keep thinking about her & i feel the sadness if she is sad for any reason. If your feelings are overwhelming and you are not able to accept the reality of the situation, you'd be best to consider therapy. You seem to be 'stuck' and thats something that can be addressed. Good luck.
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 13, 2014 Author Posted December 13, 2014 Well unfortunately the place i live in , there is no therapy center. So i need help. I have 2 choices either these feelings go away or they get constructed in a healthy way so i can propose her. I have experienced things which really were extraordinary. Whole day i keep thinking about her , if she is suffering then i can also feel the hurt & sadness. I care for her like nobody else has done for her. However when i think can i live with her? i get panic. I say no ! because i realise my heart is broken & i fear , sm1 who broke my heart can do it again.But if i think marrying someone else ,then i get stuck & i realise i have too deep feelings for her which i may or may not be able to develop for someone else , so marrying someone looks hard. What should i do?
Satu Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 Well unfortunately the place i live in , there is no therapy center. So i need help. I have 2 choices either these feelings go away or they get constructed in a healthy way so i can propose her. I have experienced things which really were extraordinary. Whole day i keep thinking about her , if she is suffering then i can also feel the hurt & sadness. I care for her like nobody else has done for her. However when i think can i live with her? i get panic. I say no ! because i realise my heart is broken & i fear , sm1 who broke my heart can do it again.But if i think marrying someone else ,then i get stuck & i realise i have too deep feelings for her which i may or may not be able to develop for someone else , so marrying someone looks hard. What should i do? You seem to be totally confused and overwhelmed, and I don't think you can handle this alone. You should reach out for some help from a mental health professional.
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 Ok but should i unfriend her? I cant do it either because we are kind of close friends . But again i want to heal myself but i can't i just dont know what to do, so i came here
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