scatterd Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 (edited) My husband asked for divorce a couple of months ago. He has gone out of is way to treat us bad. He does not apologize for anything and is just plain rude.These last few months have been miserable for the kids and myself I asked him to go and asked him to get busy filing.For I do not want to be with him anymore. All as I get out of him is he cant afford it which is pure bull----I have had to barrow money and take money out here and there to save. This guy makes plenty of money to file. Why is he sticking around he has ruined any chance of being with me over his actions. It does not make since to ask for Divorce with no intention of filing. I really think he is out of his mind and I do not mean it in a rude way. His personality has changed completely. He fill justified to hurt everyone,He constantly complains and most of all is on a pity me thing.I am getting really mad and saying things I would not normally say also. How can I get him to go. Edited December 13, 2014 by scatterd
Survivor12 Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 If you are tired of waiting for him to file, do it yourself. Why are you waiting on him? 2
carhill Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 Check with the court for fee waivers. Our court had them, though we didn't qualify due to our income. We could have lied since we both were self-employed but lying to the court is usually a bad idea. Divorce is equal opportunity. Either party can file the lawsuit. IMO, there are some advantages to filing as petitioner since the petitioner gets any motions in the record first and the respondent is generally under the gun to respond to the filing in a timely fashion or they face a default judgment on the original filing. If you want to get divorced, check the court's web site or spend an hour or two and visit the court in person and see what's up. The courthouse is a building with people in it. That's it. 3
Author scatterd Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 I just do not understand a person asking for a divorce and not taking the steps to do it. I have papers ready to file but I am pissed I am the one with little money here.He is the one that asked for it and wanted it.I have to wonder if it is a form of trying to get his own way. He mellowed out a little after I lost it and told him I want this divorce now and I am tired of these immature tactics and have taken steps to get out. I do not know for sure but I am wondering if midlife crisis cause deep imbedded anger and rage kind of like rabies. No foaming of the mouth it makes eyes turn red and head looks like it is going to pop off he holds on to it and screams f---. Just kidding trying to make light of my situation but something is not right he really was the kindest man at one time. But the fits was horrible.
justaplottwist Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 My husband has done the same. He wanted it, but I've been the one that has actually had to do all the legal stuff. But this is how our marriage was. At first, I took it as maybe he wasn't sure. But he was sure. He just didn't want to do all the "grown up stuff". And so, to protect the interests of my son and myself, both financially and mentally.....I have done the lion's share of the paperwork...and have encumbered the costs of it too. It isn't fair and it just adds more hurt/resentment/pain....but at the end of the day....I've done what needed to be done. Interestingly, when I finally filed (after 10 months of mixed messages from him), he was angry. Not because he didn't want the divorce..or because it ripped apart a family...or that my son would now have separated parents......but simply because I filed first. Like I "won". I won nothing but more stress and feelings of loss. So that gave me the assurance I had done the right thing. I imagine if my husband had decided to step up and do the right thing when he knew that he wasn't going to change his mind about divorcing....we probably wouldn't have been in this position to begin with. I'm sorry for your situation. I imagine there are others too that have dealt with similar circumstances.
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