luce83 Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Of driving past my exs tonight after going to get some grub. Shouldn't of done it, I knew the other girls car would be there. Feeling pretty low to say the least. Long story short I ended it due to the verbal abuse I would regularly get but we had stuck it out for 3.5 years. He had started confiding in this very same girl at work earlier this year but I found out and he said he would stop talking to her. Only last Saturday did I see a picture of her at his and went all crazy...I thought I was doing ok. Tips anyone?
Zahara Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Tips: Don't drive past his house and stop stalking him on social media if that is how you saw a picture of them together. It will save you a lot of hurt. No need to keep jabbing the knife in your gut when it's evident that they are together. You can drive by or stalk them 10 times a day, it won't change the fact that they're together. 2
Author luce83 Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Yeah im getting that but I certainly wasn't stalking. For whatever reason it was a one off look on her profile. I had been doing great before seeing this picture. He went on about how he will always love and care for me and that he waited for me to return. ..
angiefly Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 I know it's hard when the one we loved moves on. I'm sorry you're hurting. Please put the energy you spend on him into yourself. Instead of looking at his pictures or driving past his house do something you enjoy or something to better yourself. Time to take back your power and start loving yourself. You don't really want a guy who can move on so fast anyway... have some self respect cause you deserve better. Post here rather than driving past him or contacting him... it really does help. 1
Author luce83 Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 I know it's hard when the one we loved moves on. I'm sorry you're hurting. Please put the energy you spend on him into yourself. Instead of looking at his pictures or driving past his house do something you enjoy or something to better yourself. Time to take back your power and start loving yourself. You don't really want a guy who can move on so fast anyway... have some self respect cause you deserve better. Post here rather than driving past him or contacting him... it really does help. Thanks for that.. its ridiculous, im 31, yet its like its my first breakup.
Satu Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 I thought I was doing ok. Tips anyone? Just accept that you made a bad decision, and choose not to do it again. Life is all about making choices.
Zahara Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Yeah im getting that but I certainly wasn't stalking. For whatever reason it was a one off look on her profile. I had been doing great before seeing this picture. He went on about how he will always love and care for me and that he waited for me to return. .. If you want to stop feeling low, stop doing what you're doing. The temptation is there but at the end of the day, what would be the point of just doing these things to reiterate what you aready know. Next time, try to talk yourself out of these impulsive thoughts or when you think of snooping or drive bys...try to be rational about it and don't allow your emotions to drive you. Block their profiles. 1
angiefly Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Thanks for that.. its ridiculous, im 31, yet its like its my first breakup. It's not ridiculous at all. No matter how young/old we are, when a relationship ends it's painful and we have to grieve. It's normal what you're going through. How you choose to handle all of this is what matters. Quit torturing yourself! He didn't treat you right and now you're not being very good to yourself... Time to change that. Make the choice to love yourself and do things you enjoy JUST FOR TODAY and if you wanna pine over him tomorrow then fine. When tomorrow comes you can make the choice to love yourself again or pine over him... It's a choice! You are in control Keep posting and hang in there. 2
StalwartMind Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Yeah the only thing that's ridiculous is his need to verbally abuse, especially someone he was supposed to care about. While I'm sure most people are capable of saying really nasty things, especially in the heat of a moment, it's still a sign of poor communication skills and self control. The good thing is that there are plenty of other men (and women) out there, who do not feel the need to resolve to such low standards.Try your best not to let negative emotions take over, and take your time to regain your composure. 3
Author luce83 Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Yeah the only thing that's ridiculous is his need to verbally abuse, especially someone he was supposed to care about. While I'm sure most people are capable of saying really nasty things, especially in the heat of a moment, it's still a sign of poor communication skills and self control. The good thing is that there are plenty of other men (and women) out there, who do not feel the need to resolve to such low standards.Try your best not to let negative emotions take over, and take your time to regain your composure. Thanks for that and angiefly. Im stuggling as I moved to the city that he lives in and not really made a base formmyself whilst living here. I guess that will take time to do. Luckily I have great work colleagues but being at home by myself. ..jeeze..its not a good place to be. 1
Satu Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 Thanks for that and angiefly. Im stuggling as I moved to the city that he lives in and not really made a base formmyself whilst living here. I guess that will take time to do. Luckily I have great work colleagues but being at home by myself. ..jeeze..its not a good place to be. In time you'll be able to make your home feel more like home. Fill it with things that are about you, and who you really are - things that carry a good meaning for you. You can spend your time alone making yourself into the person you really want to be. Discovering how to do that is a wonderful process. Who do you want to be? Aim high!
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