Girl contacts me after months (must read)

[Mystrey]

Hi, last year I was on A basejumping trip in europe,I met this amazing canadian girl we hit it off straight away.We spent some awsome time togeather and relly fell for eachother.When we returned home we talked on the internet for A whole year till I finally flew to canada to meet up with her.We would talk online everyday it was great.Before I left she mentioned she didnt want any realationship or anything.I thought after everything I thought she was right into me.Well I get off the plane and seen her we kissed.I just knew something didnt feel right.After A week I had some work A bit away for A while in the country.2 weeks later I get A FB message of some guy saying we are ****ing the same girl blah blah blah.She met this guy on the net a few weeks before I arived.I was so hurt.I came all the way from New zealand to canada to hang out with her,and she just blew me off for this guy.I know when were in europe she had A BF that flew into for the last 2 weeks of her trip.she said they had broken up??yer right.So I hanged out in canada for A bit then returned home augest 2014,so angry and stupid I felt and heart broken.But october she sent me A message saying shes sorry for what shes done,when shes still dateing this internet guy.I said stick it up ur ass.I have mad no contact,as far as I was concerned she was history to me.Now comes DEC 2014 shes ringing me up crying saying she misses me,she always thinks about me,shes sorry for hurting me.I told her im not for giving her.Now I get A message saying that she wants to be friends again?So I guess its be in the friend zone,while shes still dateing this guy,or I shut her down for good,im soooo confused on what to do??She even said she wants to meet up with me again.I still have feeling for her.But after whats shes done to me I feel like shuting her down.Can anyone give some advice please.

[preraph]

Well, do NOT agree to enter the friendzone. She's trying to ease her own conscience. I'm glad you told her to stick it. She should have told you not to come or at least that she had a bf. I wouldn't bother with her anymore. Especially since she's halfway across the world. She doesn't know what she wants, for one thing.

[salparadise]

Tell her to hop on a plane and come to New Zealand (at her expense) and see how fast she disappears! My guess is that she's either been dumped by the other guy or she's grown restless again and doesn't have a local guy in the wings. You're better off letting her go... but if you could get her to come to you to bang for a few weeks before sending her home.... that way if she tries to FZ you, you have nothing invested and just send her on her way.