irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 There's someone at work...someone I really like. He has been promoted last month and now he's kind of my boss. Thing is I've never had the oportunity to talk to him. He avoided me a couple of times. He just doesn't look at me and if he sees me, he just keeps his distance. I wonder why...He's very nice with all others. He makes me feel ideous. I don't know if he's married, nothing. I just wonder what have I done he avoids me. I like him. I look for him, I want to know where is he all the time
mammasita Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 He's probably got a "thing" for you. I bet you make him nervous LOL
Redhead14 Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 There's someone at work...someone I really like. He has been promoted last month and now he's kind of my boss. Thing is I've never had the oportunity to talk to him. He avoided me a couple of times. He just doesn't look at me and if he sees me, he just keeps his distance. I wonder why...He's very nice with all others. He makes me feel ideous. I don't know if he's married, nothing. I just wonder what have I done he avoids me. I like him. I look for him, I want to know where is he all the time Start a conversation with him . . . but be careful how you come across. He may like you a lot, but may be married and so doesn't want to create opportunity for inappropriate relationship. Who knows? But, if he's kind of your boss, he should at least get to know you. Just introduce yourself, and say something like, "I'm the (job title), if you need anything and I can help, let me know." If he's single and does like you, let him make all the moves,.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Tgere was one time all the bosses came to do some kind of joke, they been doing it to all, and he was there. When it was my turn, they all came to me but he left!! He run to the other side and he did not make the joke to me with a others. How can I possible talk to him if he runs away from me all the time?? With all others he's all smiles.
gaius Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Could always gain 30 pounds or cut your hair to seem less threatening.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 I'm not threatening at all. I'm nice! But I did nothing to him for him to avoid me like this. Wtf I looked at him several times, yes. Maybe he realized and just didn't like it? I cannot find a reason for him to avoid me like this. He NEVER talked to me, not even to introduce him after he got promoted. I'm pissed off. With all others he always talk and smiles and waves when he passes by.
PegNosePete Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Write him an email asking why he avoids you? If he's "kind of your boss" then you need to be able to communicate for good working practice.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Nah. No need to do that. I can perfectly function without him. He's not my direct boss. I was just curious of what you guys think l. Why a man would avoid a woman?
Redhead14 Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Nah. No need to do that. I can perfectly function without him. He's not my direct boss. I was just curious of what you guys think l. Why a man would avoid a woman? It doesn't matter why a man avoids a woman . . . he's avoiding her, she should avoid him then if there isn't any other reason to communicate with him. It's about boundaries.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Right. I thought about that too. Sexual harrasment. Specially now that has been promoted. Ok. I'll let this one go I guess. I'll still look at him because he's a very good looking man
preraph Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Cleary, he's picked up on your crush and doesn't want to do anything at all to encourage you. 4
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Cleary, he's picked up on your crush and doesn't want to do anything at all to encourage you. Makes sense. But what an immature guy he is! I'm not gonna say anything to make him feel uncomfortable! Oh man.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Nah. No need to do that. I can perfectly function without him. He's not my direct boss. I was just curious of what you guys think l. Why a man would avoid a woman? In my opinion, it's either 1 of two choices: He really likes you a lot, but very afraid to really voice it, or he doesn't like you at all and avoids you completely in order to not deal with you and to do it discreetly. But as I think about it, I think he just finds you attractive and fun, and he's avoiding you because he has a woman...maybe even a son. He could just be avoiding you for the sake of respect, to be sure his woman's feelings are what he wants to protect.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 In my opinion, it's either 1 of two choices: He really likes you a lot, but very afraid to really voice it, or he doesn't like you at all and avoids you completely in order to not deal with you and to do it discreetly. But as I think about it, I think he just finds you attractive and fun, and he's avoiding you because he has a woman...maybe even a son. He could just be avoiding you for the sake of respect, to be sure his woman's feelings are what he wants to protect. True. Because im fun indeed! and I'm nice too. There was no need to avoid me like a rat. Makes me feel sad. I wish he'd makes jokes to me like with all others
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Let it go. If he is your boss, getting involved with you romantically can cost him his job. Knowing this, if he is aware of your affection for him, he might avoid you to protect his position at work. Sexual harassment is serious business. This is so true, I didn't even consider, Was this something he did before he became a big hitter? Did he avoid you before be became your "boss"? Because if he didn't, I doubt this is the cause.
Author irresolute Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 This is so true, I didn't even consider, Was this something he did before he became a big hitter? Did he avoid you before be became your "boss"? Because if he didn't, I doubt this is the cause. Well, before he got promoted I saw him a couple times in our morning meetings and he never looked at me. Ever. We were in different departments so there was not much to share or to talk. We even had different time shifts. But now he's a boss he's everywhere and i can see how he interacts and he's really friendly! Except with me. I was once having my lunch and he came in to grab a bottle of water and I looked at him while he was leaving, he was playing with the bottle and singing ?? And it was only me. But he didn't say hi
Author irresolute Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 Hi all, Please let me know your thoughts about this: I was arranging something and this guy passed by and suddenly he saw me and he almost jumped. He was surprised to see me? He quickly looked to the other side and continue walking without even say hi. What I get from his behavior is that evidently something is happening. He disappeared after that and never seen him again for the rest of the day
Donnie Darko Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 He is just using the PUA 'Twilight' game on you where he acts totally disinterested in you and avoids you at all costs, which just makes you even more infatuated with him until you are putty in his hands. 1
Author irresolute Posted December 14, 2014 Author Posted December 14, 2014 Really? I mean, he seemed truly surprised and at the same time kinda disgusted? I don't know... This is so strange
FitChick Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 Maybe someone told him you had a crush on him so he feels awkward. Be professional and polite but not over friendly.
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