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so there's a restaurant i go to once a week or so on the way home from work that some friends work at. about 2-3 months ago i went in and there was a girl i'd not seen before. she was super cute and seemingly just my type. we made some small talk while she took my order.

fast forward to two weeks later. this girl is working again and remember my name. i thought it was cute. i always sit outside at this place so i go out to wait and she brings me my food. we make a little small talk mostly initiated by her and that was it.

for the next 2-3 weeks same routine but she stays longer at my table and talks more and more and volunteers info about herself while asking me about mine. not one time every mentioning a boyfriend. i ask my friend later on about her and he says she has a guy but he is lame, etc.

i got busy for a few weeks and didn't make it in and a few nights ago i finally went in and she all but attacked me verbally saying almost exactly how long its been and why i'd not been back, etc. i laughed and told her i was busy and who's counting anyway and cut the conversation off. later on she brings me my food and says that it bothers her i'm not talking to her and she sits down and we chat and catch up. now this girl is awesome and we hit it off and still not once has she ever mentioned her guy.

i am not an advocate of cheating or stealing girls but i can tell shes totally into me and thus far i have resisted asking her for her number as i'm trying to avoid trouble for the both of us. but i really would like to hangout with her. even if just platonically for now.

 

WHAT SHOULD I DO?

 

any experience or advice?

 

thanks!

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Don't let your username suit you. Try to stay away from her. You wouldn't be "just friends" with her. Also, labeling the boyfriend as "lame", and using that description as a green light to make a move on their GF is pretty pathetic.

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so there's a restaurant i go to once a week or so on the way home from work that some friends work at. about 2-3 months ago i went in and there was a girl i'd not seen before. she was super cute and seemingly just my type. we made some small talk while she took my order.

fast forward to two weeks later. this girl is working again and remember my name. i thought it was cute. i always sit outside at this place so i go out to wait and she brings me my food. we make a little small talk mostly initiated by her and that was it.

for the next 2-3 weeks same routine but she stays longer at my table and talks more and more and volunteers info about herself while asking me about mine. not one time every mentioning a boyfriend. i ask my friend later on about her and he says she has a guy but he is lame, etc.

i got busy for a few weeks and didn't make it in and a few nights ago i finally went in and she all but attacked me verbally saying almost exactly how long its been and why i'd not been back, etc. i laughed and told her i was busy and who's counting anyway and cut the conversation off. later on she brings me my food and says that it bothers her i'm not talking to her and she sits down and we chat and catch up. now this girl is awesome and we hit it off and still not once has she ever mentioned her guy.

i am not an advocate of cheating or stealing girls but i can tell shes totally into me and thus far i have resisted asking her for her number as i'm trying to avoid trouble for the both of us. but i really would like to hangout with her. even if just platonically for now.

 

WHAT SHOULD I DO?

 

any experience or advice?

 

thanks!

 

 

You may be really into this girl, but sit down for a second and think,

she has a boyfriend already but talks crap behind his back, that stinks,

Why do you think she would do anything but the same to you?

When the honeymoon stage wears off, and she's chatting other guys instead of you?

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sorry guys/gals, i may have not been clear enough. the crap talking was from my friend who works with her and knows her guy. HE said the guy was lame and would rather see her with me. half joking and half not. SHE has not said a word about him ever in any of our conversations. according to my friend they have been together 2-3 years and he thinks she just seems bored and unhappy or something. i dont know. sorry for the mix up.

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So far I haven't seem much more than a friendly server bucking for a bigger tip. Giving you grief about how long it's been since you were last in was a bit over the top but as a waitress I'd sometimes tease patrons about their habits.

 

If you want to know about the BF ask. Your friend may be mistaken & that relationship could be over. She may have only been flirting with you professionally to get a better tip.

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If you're man enough to handle rejection you should ask for her number. It's always tricky when you're dealing with someone who's in business with you so the potential is there. Don't expect to live happily ever after though if she does submit to your advances.

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