ThreeYearsDumb Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 (edited) The ex and I were discussing how to handle Christmas this year. I offered to let her share in Christmas morning with my daughter and I because it's my year. And I know how hard it is to not see your kid on Christmas morning. She did not extend to me the same courtesy last year. My offer was genuinely motivated by what I think is best for my daughter which is to see both her parents on Christmas morning. I am also harboring the slightest of hope that it might change things between us, a Christmas miracle perhaps. As far as I've come in moving on, I'm just not there yet. It's hard to make that offer, thinking it's the best for everyone, and she didn't do the same for me last year. I don't think it's a mistake because it is best for my daughter but I feel like it is a setback for me. Somehow I feel I've given her something to my detriment, which I am trying not to do. It hurts to have to talk to her like a business associate, all polite and cordial and not the love of my life. Just a reminder how much she has moved on. Two steps forward one step back I guess. Edited December 12, 2014 by ThreeYearsDumb
d0nnivain Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Good for you for doing what's best for your daughter. Unfortunately, the fact that you harbor hope for a Christmas miracle as you put it may make your EX shy away from the offer. To give you even the visual of the family on Christmas morning will not help you to move forward. Perhaps a Christmas Eve / Christmas day arrangement would be better.
HereNorThere Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Altruism- noun The belief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others. Thank you for putting your daughter's best interests ahead of your own. That shows a lot of character on your part. Thank you for practicing altruism. It will come back 10 fold.
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