why do i always end up in a long distance relationship?

[Mizz Layta]

I was in on and off long distance relationship and with a guy that lives 4 hours apart. It eventually ended and he met someone closer. However now I have fallen another guy I have been chatting with on body building site. Unfortunately , he lives in States and I live in Canada

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we live too far apart to even meet up for coffee. It sucks because I wish we could meet up but he is too far way.I do meet guys close to where I live but most of the times I am just not interested in them. There is even this guy at work who asked me out not to long ago but I am just not interested and don't like dating co workers for obvious reasons

 

I don't even plan in getting involved with guys that lives far, it just happens.I would prefer to fall for guys close to me

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I can actually spend time with them.Why does this keep happening?

[OnlyHonesty]

It doesn't just happen, its an unconscious drive. It's possible you are emotionally unavaliable, fearful of commitement, enjoy more fantasy than reality or enjoy the yearning (related to the previous point). You may find it more exciting to want what you can't have easily too.

 

A guy that lives closer is too avaliable, uninteresting, too easy and too real. A guy that lives too far away is mysterious, unatainable, safer, fantasy based and more interesting. Most things do not happen, we just aren't conscious of them.

[Mizz Layta]

Thank you for your response. well when I fall for these guys I always wish they lived closer.just like with my ex that lived 4 hours apart, i have always day dreamed what it would be like if we lived closer and see each other whenever we can. However, neither one of us was willing to relocate unless if we going to get married or so

[Els]

If you live in a smaller area with fewer people (or few compatible people who share your interests) then it is quite understandable that it would be easier to meet compatible folks on the internet.

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It's easier for me to be chattier and be comfortable with somebody when there is a phone between us. In person I'm awkward. I've gotten a lot better over the years but I still sort of panic when I notice somebody liking me in person.