digger Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 Just wanted you to know i'm doing 'finer' than i have in a year. After that little bomb shell of hers last week (i love ****) i thought i'd go home and cry my eyes out. I havent yet. I pretty much wrote a 'go get f****** letter" and felt pretty great when i dropped it in the mailbox. If she wants to ever come back, it'll be her doing the asking. Now for my final thot: and please dont say 'digger quit pining for her". Im NOT! Just wonder what you all thot of a woman who (married for 21 yrs) lays her head on your shoulder 2 wks before divorce papers, and says "stay with me forever" just 3 months before, and one year later is professing she LOVES a man shes only had 900 mile phone conversations with? Is that screwed up or what? At what point do they wake up?
Mz. Pixie Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 Digger- It's her, not you. She was playing with you because you let her. Perhaps they had had a fight that day or she needed her ego stroked. You've got to set boundaries if you want to get over it. Yes, she is F'd up. Don't let her ruin what's left of your life.
Pocky Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 You wife's erratic behavior is completely indecipherable and I couldn't possibly make any assumption on why she's behaved the way she has. Good luck with your healing process.
Author digger Posted March 22, 2005 Author Posted March 22, 2005 OH YEAH I FORGOT--THOT THIS WAS AMUSING: during her 10 minute tirade about how 'we'll never...' she offered to send me a book on how to get over the love of your life. So why is she reading it? lol
Mz. Pixie Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 She probably isn't. You're reading too much into her actions because you want to believe so badly she's coming back to you. Why the HECK would you want her if she did come back????? Someone may have suggested the book to her or she might have seen it at the bookstore. She's moved on Digger- she said she loves this other guy. QUIT talking to her.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 First of all, I'm not defending your wife, but I went thru something similar. She may have been wrestilng with the decision for several months before she left. Some days she may have actually felt like she could carry on with you, and other days the guilt may have consumed her. She ultimately made her final decision to go with him and never look back. That wasn't fair to you. It wasn't fair how I treated my exH either, although we are still good friends. Please keep pursuing other things to make yourself happy. Who knows, you may become friends again once the roller coaster ride finishes.
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