marchel Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I met very nice and pleasant physical therapist at one of my therapy sessions. We had a conversation while she was doing her work and besides she is cute, she has also similar hobbies and I kind of liked the way she was talking and behaving. Basically she is there on internship for half of a year and she's still student (probably 5,6 years younger than me). I felt very comfortable with her. The session was also longer than ones with her colleagues. As these sessions are not always with the same therapist and this was my second to last one (I couldn't have known I will meet her there again), when I was leaving I asked whether she wouldn't like to go out sometimes. I could saw she was surprised by this question, she repeated it, and then I repeated it again to her. It was kind of awkward moment for me, but at least I tried. Finally after couple of seconds, she said "probably not" with light smile. Then I had to leave as she was going to invite another patient inside. Do you think it is worth to try to contact her on Facebook when I finish my therapy there? This invitation was probably not the best idea at that time and at that place. Can there be a chance she will change her decision? There was still a word "probably" , you know:). Thanks.
CarrieT Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Nope - don't go there. Like teachers and doctors, these types of professionals can't get involved with their patients/students. She told you no for a reason. 1
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 She already told you "probably not" meaning NOT interested in a nice way. And no it wouldn't be appropriate to contact her on facebook. She is your physio therapist, keep it on a professional level.
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 TIP: when they say "probably not", "maybe later" "Some other time" "Too busy" "not a good time".....all this means a big fat NO!
Phoe Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Don't do it. There's a therapist at my physical therapy place (not my therapist, but he's always there). Cute Indian guy. Never spoken to him but I see the way he is with patients, always smiling and laughing. I got a mini crush on him and now can't even look his way when I'm at therapy. It's just not a good idea to pursue.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 No, don't ask her out. If she was able or interested enough to accept, she would have done. Chances are there's no way in hell she'd get involved with a patient. ESPECIALLY as a student, they drill it into us at college how we only have to put one foot wrong with professional boundaries and you're sacked from the course. I had a client send me a facebook message, all I did instantly was screen shot it, block him, and show it to my manager first thing next morning to go on his file so if he tried to contact me again it would be clear I hadn't encouraged it and it wasn't a one-off. The dude didn't get into trouble, but he did have the embarrassment of having a 'we can only talk while I'm at work' conversation. Chances are, she's just great at her job and at putting people at ease. It's normal to develop crushes on people who are great at their work and personable, especially if for the period of time where they're working with you they make you feel the centre of their world (person-centred care!). If you really want to be nice in future, you could write to the person's manager manager saying how impressed you were with the care you received from her and that they're going to make a great physical therapist someday. Whenever I got messages like that from service users it absolutely put a huge spring in my step for weeks and it looked great to my boss with regards to my marks, or chances of permanent employment/promotion someday. Although now you've asked her out, it's probably not such a good idea to do it with this woman. Nothing good will come from contacting her again, only having your communications discussed in the office and being used as a learning point for maintaining professional boundaries if you don't work in that sort of profession it's easy not to realise that those boundaries are there and so firm so I don't blame you for trying, but now you know. 2
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