Alter Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 So my girlfriend of about 10 months has a couple of guy friends that just so obviously want to bone her. She doesn't believe me, but I can tell because they try to flirt, like will give her a hug, touch her arms when talking to her, etc... I try not to be jealous, but sometimes, I point out to her that they want to **** her, that they aren't her friends. She doesn't believe me and refused to not invite them to things we do with other friends.
MissFree Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 She has to see something women aren't blind. Trust me! She sees it and probably like the attention. Most women feel flattered when they know a man wants to f*ck them. But, here is the gotcha... You are her MAN. Let me say that again...YOU are her MAN! And she should change the way she interacts with them based on the fact that you've expressed that their behavior makes you uncomfortable. When you get into a relationship you must change the dynamics of some friendships. Things can't always be the same way they were before you were in a relationship, ya know? So, if you come to her with the issue of disrespect maybe she will see it differently. At this point, she isn't taking you seriously and probably thinks "Oh, he's jealous how cute". But, its not about jealousy, its about respect. Have you ever asked her how she would feel if the roles were reversed? 3
FitChick Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Try to fix up the guys with her girlfriends or relatives.
d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 If her behavior in front of you with them is the same as it is when you are not there, trust her. While she may like the attention, she seems to have drawn lines in the sand that she's not crossing. Be secure enough to trust her judgment. Also think The Art of War: Keep your friends close but your enemies closer. You would do well to allow these guys to be part of your social circle. Make them your friends too. Make sure they get an eye full of how much she is your GF. 1
Danda Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I don't really understand how hugs = wanting to **** someone, but maybe I'm just a bit clueless, haven't had very many male friends over the years. But are you sure you're not just being insecure/paranoid? The topic of hugs came up in another thread, though, a female's thread in which she said that she had to stop hugging male friends because so many of them got the wrong idea from it. Is it just like a common thing that men interpret hugs as erotic?
Ducky71 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I don't really understand how hugs = wanting to **** someone, but maybe I'm just a bit clueless, haven't had very many male friends over the years. But are you sure you're not just being insecure/paranoid? The topic of hugs came up in another thread, though, a female's thread in which she said that she had to stop hugging male friends because so many of them got the wrong idea from it. Is it just like a common thing that men interpret hugs as erotic? You'd be surprised.
todreaminblue Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 (edited) i wonder if there were a poll created for cheaters.......how many cheat with randoms and how many cheat with guy friends they have known for a long time...... i would think the percentage would fall on the random cheat scenario......you have to trust her a cheat will cheat regardless of who its with...and a woman who wont cheat doesnt beleive in cheating no matter what....then she wont cheat on you....so either you trust her or you dont trust her....... she has to however have respect for you and your emotions and things that make you uncomfortable like hugging has to go if the guys throw a hissy because of the change of dynamic because you are in the picture shows a lack of respect and true friendship for her and for you..talk to her about how it makes you feel .....dont throw accusations like ......they just want to bone you are you blind?.......tell her you feel disrespected it makes you uncomfortable and you dont want to feel that way about her friends......i have male friends.....i dont hug them very often unless they are crying...........deb Edited December 11, 2014 by todreaminblue
FitChick Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 If she wanted to be with them and not you, she would be. I'm sure there are men who want to have sex with me. That is their problem. 1
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 You sound a little controlling. It's not like she's having naked cabana parties when you're away for the weekend; you have no business dictating who she can invite to things that you do as a group. Moreover, most women can't make it to adulthood without having made a number of friends who want to have dating/sexual relationships. If I refused the friendship of every guy who ever expressed interest in me, I'd have missed out on many great friends. Trust her. Nobody is going to steal her out from under your nose. But if you keep trying to separate her from her friends, she'll walk away on her own.
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