Confuso Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 Here is the deal. I know this girl since april last year and she is a wonderfull person. I started having feelings for her last November, she had already broken up w/ her ex. We flirted and talked. In Dec. she went away until Feb to study. We talked on MSN quite a bit and decided to go out when she came back. She knew the I was going through a battle w/ cancer (im 24, she´s 20) When she came back everything was going fine and we were going to go out. However the same week I discovered that she went back w/ her ex. I know through a mutual friend that she is having problems with her ex-bf. Now why she flirts with me agrees to go out and she goes back to her ex. I dont know this guy, but for what I heard they are always having problems. She is a falimy girl w/ a good heart and a great friend the type that encourages you. I am trying to cut contact, but I know it will be hard since we live in the same condo.
Mz. Pixie Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 She went back to him probably because she has feelings for him. Sorry. I'm sorry about your cancer- girl trouble is the least of your concerns right now. No contact is the way to go. If you see her in the hall you can say hi but otherwise I'd cut it short.
Lonestar Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Confuso Here is the deal. I know this girl since april last year and she is a wonderfull person. I started having feelings for her last November, she had already broken up w/ her ex. We flirted and talked. In Dec. she went away until Feb to study. We talked on MSN quite a bit and decided to go out when she came back. She knew the I was going through a battle w/ cancer (im 24, she´s 20) When she came back everything was going fine and we were going to go out. However the same week I discovered that she went back w/ her ex. I know through a mutual friend that she is having problems with her ex-bf. Now why she flirts with me agrees to go out and she goes back to her ex. I dont know this guy, but for what I heard they are always having problems. She is a falimy girl w/ a good heart and a great friend the type that encourages you. I am trying to cut contact, but I know it will be hard since we live in the same condo. Sorry to hear about your cancer, and frankly that is something more important to be focusing on than this girl. She still has feelings for her ex, regardless of how f*cked up their relationship is, and she probably won't stop going back with him until she has been burned multiple times. There is a connection between them right now that you can't break. Worry about yourself, not what she is doing. I'm sorry you're going through this.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 Another perspective on this is that maybe she is looking out for herself and being with her ex is an excuse to not be with you. Maybe she has the fear that you may not be around for her in a few years (God willing you will be around for a very long time). I'm terribly sorry you are going through this. I have never been close to anyone who has had cancer, and I'm not sure how I would be able to deal with it or what effect it would have on a new relationship of mine if that person had cancer.
confuso Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 So far I have been able to not contact her or see her. I see myself not thinking of her all the time. But sometimes I remember her, seeing stuff that we talk about, or when the radio plays Jack Johnson, which is her favorite singer. I keep telling myself that I have to be strong if I see her, but I dont know how I´ll react if we see each other and she smiles at me... Confuso
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