Dropkickbilly Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 So I dated this girl for 3 months. The final month being long distance. She needed space because I was too clingy and paranoid about what shes doing. Then a week later she just ended it. I begged and pleaded for about a week then tried NC rule. Once that started these pictures of her and these guys who I know shes not dating but liked her came up on social media. This made me break the NC rule right away and she would either not respond or say stop worrying. I said some rude things that I would not normally say to her. In a month I tried to contact her 4 times and she would not respond. One of them being a long detailed apology email. Now I have been in NC rule for a month. I'm sure it will be a long time because of everything that has happened from the begging and pleading to the start of NC rule. Do you think she will ever contact me? We always told each other from the day we started dating to the day it ended that we will always be friends no matter what.
kp4633 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 This is purely based off of the information you have provided. The only way you are going to be able to get her back is if you move on. Right now she thinks you are too easy and wants a challenge. The guys she's hanging with right now like her and she knows it. It is not a challenge for her its mainly a stroke of the ego and she is most likely enjoying the attention. Now you need to do a couple things. 1. Focus on YOURSELF you have to find your weaknesses and improve them. Your ex saw a couple and she left. 2. Look for other women. When you do this you are not only gaining confidence but you are gaining experience as well. 3. Do not contact her under any circumstances for at least 4-5 months. Anything less is not enough time to CHANGE if she is smart she will know this and not want to come back to you. I know it's tough I'm going through it as well but it is necessary. You were together for only 90 days. Did you become clingy in the relationship recently or from the start? What is your age group? I can tailor my advice based off of those two factors for you but the advice I have given so far will stand. Hang in there brother it's not the end of the world. 1
Author Dropkickbilly Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Thanks! We are both freshman in college. I became clingy when she left for college because I was worried about her going out and drinking at parties which she never did until the break up because she felt freedom.She started going out to parties with those guys and other girl friends. I use to question her how much she drank even if she just had a little and she didn't. I have to say those guys were truly the first guys besides me that she could call her friends and hang out with. I felt like she would contact me sooner because we are both coming home for winter break this Friday for a month. She does not really have a lot of reliable friends at home. I became a huge part of her life from the 2 months at home we dated. That is why I think something will come within that month. My birthday is January 3rd.
Author Dropkickbilly Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 This is purely based off of the information you have provided. The only way you are going to be able to get her back is if you move on. Right now she thinks you are too easy and wants a challenge. The guys she's hanging with right now like her and she knows it. It is not a challenge for her its mainly a stroke of the ego and she is most likely enjoying the attention. Now you need to do a couple things. 1. Focus on YOURSELF you have to find your weaknesses and improve them. Your ex saw a couple and she left. 2. Look for other women. When you do this you are not only gaining confidence but you are gaining experience as well. 3. Do not contact her under any circumstances for at least 4-5 months. Anything less is not enough time to CHANGE if she is smart she will know this and not want to come back to you. I know it's tough I'm going through it as well but it is necessary. You were together for only 90 days. Did you become clingy in the relationship recently or from the start? What is your age group? I can tailor my advice based off of those two factors for you but the advice I have given so far will stand. Hang in there brother it's not the end of the world. Thanks! We are both freshman in college. I became clingy when she left for college because I was worried about her going out and drinking at parties which she never did until the break up because she felt freedom.She started going out to parties with those guys and other girl friends. I use to question her how much she drank even if she just had a little and she didn't. I have to say those guys were truly the first guys besides me that she could call her friends and hang out with. I felt like she would contact me sooner because we are both coming home for winter break this Friday for a month. She does not really have a lot of reliable friends at home. I became a huge part of her life from the 2 months at home we dated. That is why I think something will come within that month. My birthday is January 3rd.
Author Dropkickbilly Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Thanks! We are both freshman in college. I became clingy when she left for college because I was worried about her going out and drinking at parties which she never did until the break up because she felt freedom.She started going out to parties with those guys and other girl friends. I use to question her how much she drank even if she just had a little and she didn't. I have to say those guys were truly the first guys besides me that she could call her friends and hang out with. I felt like she would contact me sooner because we are both coming home for winter break this Friday for a month. She does not really have a lot of reliable friends at home. I became a huge part of her life from the 2 months at home we dated. That is why I think something will come within that month. My birthday is January 3rd. Sorry I am not so good with forums.
kp4633 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Thanks! We are both freshman in college. I became clingy when she left for college because I was worried about her going out and drinking at parties which she never did until the break up because she felt freedom.She started going out to parties with those guys and other girl friends. I use to question her how much she drank even if she just had a little and she didn't. I have to say those guys were truly the first guys besides me that she could call her friends and hang out with. I felt like she would contact me sooner because we are both coming home for winter break this Friday for a month. She does not really have a lot of reliable friends at home. I became a huge part of her life from the 2 months at home we dated. That is why I think something will come within that month. My birthday is January 3rd. Sorry I am not so good with forums. It's cool. Yeah I would give her space. She will most likely not contact you. She is expecting you to contact her. However, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES CONTACT HER. If she still has feelings she will contact you towards the end of break. Two months is not a long time at all and you basically went separate ways. I know you became a part of her life at home but college changes your life. You are both young, go and have fun man don't waste your freshman year on a girl who is not interested in you at the moment. Sorry if this seems harsh I'm not trying to be but there is no way to beat around the bush for this. I promise you it WILL get much much better for YOU.
Author Dropkickbilly Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 So my ex and I are not on speaking terms. She broke up with me 3 months ago because I was clingy. Then I begged and pleaded for a long time. Now its been a month and a half no contact but we started playing trivia crack. This sounds stupid but I really want another chance with her. We went into NC rule because she stopped responding to my texts.
Danda Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Who initiated the two of you playing an online game? Did you break no contact and initiate? Did she initiate and you broke no contact and started playing the online game with her? If she broke it off because you were super clingy, and then you begged and pleaded for a month and a half until she just flat out ignored you, and it has only been a month and a half of NC before starting this online game thing.. You need to seriously stop yourself from freaking out and getting all excited. Chances are that the sort of relationship she wants did not change much (i.e. at all) over the course of just 3 months. Chances are she still only wants light and casual, with plenty of space. Her playing this online game with you might mean that she is cool with being casual friends but doesn't necessarily mean anything more. Which is why you probably should have stayed NC, because now the situation could easily drive you nuts. You should also take note of the fact that she was ignoring your texts, which by your own words were begging/pleading about the relationship. So what do you think is going to happen if you start trying to talk to her about getting back together / having another chance? Could easily wind up with you feeling like you've been dumped all over again. Which is why you're supposed to stay no contact. >_<
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