polaske93 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 It's been 3 months.. I go through periods where I hardly even think about her, and if I do its just to laugh at the fact that I let her effect me so much. I just finished up a period of 3 days with hardly any thought. Today I woke up early in the morning crying, I don't remember dreaming of her.. but I can't shake my mind off of her now. Everytime I close my eyes I can see her vividly, I see her smile. It's ****ing killing me, I try and go back to sleep and all I can see is her getting ****ed by my friend.. I get on facebook to try and distract me and every ****ing post even though it's not related is making me think about her. I want this all to ****ing stop! I can't handle this anymore, she wasn't the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, or even dated.. but I can't quit thinking about how beautiful she was to me. I'm laying in bed thinking she should be laying with me, I want to just reach over and hold her so bad..
Jimmyjackson Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Dude I'm with you...been 3 months for me also, mood changes all the time! just get out of bed and do something productive to take your mind off it. Did she leave you for your friend? 1
Itspointless Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Three months is not so much, be patient, it takes time 2
DontBreak Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 been there too i started thinking hess awful thoughts I'm just starting my no contact i hope you get better 1
Satu Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Stick firmly to NC and you'll gradually start to feel better. 3 months is early in the process of healing. Don't hold the tears back - they are a part of your recovery. 1
kp4633 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Been there as well and still going through it. It's been getting better 3 months post BU so far. Just go through the pain and eventually it will subside. 1
Chi townD Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Dude, seriously? 3 Months is nothing. It's a drop in the bucket. You're healing and you are going to have your good days and your bad days. But, if you stick with it, promise it's going to get better. 1
Elle1975 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Well, may I suggest you get out of bed. That's probably part of your problem, spending all this time thinking of her. It takes time for things to improve, but it also takes a genuine effort. 1
Author polaske93 Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Well, may I suggest you get out of bed. That's probably part of your problem, spending all this time thinking of her. It takes time for things to improve, but it also takes a genuine effort. Haha I literally wrote this at 6 a.m. after waking up from a dead sleep.. 1
Author polaske93 Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Dude I'm with you...been 3 months for me also, mood changes all the time! just get out of bed and do something productive to take your mind off it. Did she leave you for your friend? Ya.. after I introduced the 2 of them just a couple weeks prior
Author polaske93 Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Thanks for the support everyone.. that is kind of depressing to hear that 3 months is still early in the grieving process though haha.. I hate waking up knowing that this will continue to happen for months to come..
Zzyxx Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I'll be 5 months post BU on Christmas eve and I'm still crying and sad, so don't even worry, at 3 months this is normal All you can do is maintain NC and take it one day at a time. I wish you heartfelt luck! 1
Satu Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Thanks for the support everyone.. that is kind of depressing to hear that 3 months is still early in the grieving process though haha.. I hate waking up knowing that this will continue to happen for months to come.. Its not as bad as you might think. You start to have some good days and some bad days. After a while you have more good days than bad days. Later on the good days greatly outnumber the bad days. Human beings are self-healing organisms. Your biology, nature, and mind naturally and purposefully work towards healing, and thats a powerful force. You will heal. 2
Author polaske93 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 I have finally been able to stick to no contact, almost a month now.. I'm worried about the day that she messages me, I know it will happen sooner or later, and I'm honestly suprised that she has lasted this long.. she always remains contact with her ex's, and keeps them around for one reason or another. I will never allow myself to be there for her like that after the pain she caused me.. however I feel that when she messages me it will be a 3 page apology or something that will hit me hard..
Satu Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I have finally been able to stick to no contact, almost a month now.. I'm worried about the day that she messages me, I know it will happen sooner or later, and I'm honestly suprised that she has lasted this long.. she always remains contact with her ex's, and keeps them around for one reason or another. I will never allow myself to be there for her like that after the pain she caused me.. however I feel that when she messages me it will be a 3 page apology or something that will hit me hard.. Don't read it. Delete it unread. Block her number.
Stsm5934 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I think sometimes we are just inpatient with ourselves. Try to remember where you were right after the breakup. Maybe you still have feelings that are as intense as your did back then, but I'm sure they are less frequent. About once every couple weeks I still get really upset when I think about my last break-up (about 3 months ago too). When I'm in those moments it feels horrible, like I'm right back to when things first ended. Even after the moment passes, I still feel upset about being upset for the next couple days. We want so badly to move on and to be not hurt, but everything your feeling is natural and human. Be patient and loving with yourself in those moments. 1
Lugoj89 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 You said it yourself she's not even the prettiest girl you dated. Not that looks matter but I think you're getting to another point. She wasn't the greatest thing. I think it hits you that she is ****ing around with your friend. Remember karma is a bitch and if she left you to date your friend she'll do the same to him. Just a matter of time. Change that sadness to anger. She doesn't deserve you. 1
Author polaske93 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 You said it yourself she's not even the prettiest girl you dated. Not that looks matter but I think you're getting to another point. She wasn't the greatest thing. I think it hits you that she is ****ing around with your friend. Remember karma is a bitch and if she left you to date your friend she'll do the same to him. Just a matter of time. Change that sadness to anger. She doesn't deserve you. That's exactly it, when she broke it off.. it sucked, but I wasn't that torn up about It I figured life went on, and that at least I could still see her as a friend.. once I found out about the 2 of them I was an emotional wreck.. I felt so betrayed by the only 2 people i had. Especially since I'm the one who brought him around her, and we hung out together a few times.. I'm responsible for all of my own pain, and i dont deserve it..
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