morespace Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 (edited) GF said I need space, still love you but I need space...what is the average time women need space...without a lot of details...I started conselling because I felt I need it...started counseling a month ago and 8 days ago the gf said need space...I felt I was controlling to much...that's why I am going to counseling...whats the average amount a time before I should call to visit...keep it simple with no arguing or talking about the relationship...I am sure theres no set guidelines. What do I expect to see and to happen from the GF side of it? Edited December 10, 2014 by morespace
Under The Radar Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Nine out of ten times: I need space = I want to breakup The person just doesn't know how to come out and say it ...... they just fade out over time. I wouldn't get my hopes up. If you don't hear from her in a couple of weeks you might want to reach out ONE time and see if she is receptive ...... if not ...... you should strongly consider moving on. How were you controlling?
Chi townD Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 There could also be someone else in the picture. Sometimes they want space to explore another person without you looking over their shoulder. To see if this other person is serious about a relationship with them. If they are, they'll make this space a lot more permanent. If they don't, the incredibly, space time is over! I love you again! You might be getting set up as the backup plan.
DaisyLA Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 As someone who "needed space" a week ago and actually meant "I am so effing done," I highly recommend you read the 180 and follow it. It's exactly what I want from my husband right now: for him to act like he's doing things to move on. Plus, it will benefit anyone who follows, in general. You're making yourself happier as an individual.
Friskyone4u Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I need space means she has another man that she wants to try out to see if she likes him better. Find another girlfriend
Mr. Lucky Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Not much good news here, eh? You don't say how long you were together or at what stage your relationship was. However, you might ask her to try couples counseling. If she answers affirmatively, still a chance. But a "no" means she's over and out, time to move on... Mr. Lucky
Author morespace Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 Ok so I think I found out why she said "I need space" just found out she is addicted to Adderall....makes since now that I think back to what she has said to me the last month...how she feels....staying up for 2 days and not tired....now I have a new problem...walk away or go and try to help???
Mr. Lucky Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 walk away or go and try to help??? You's get more clarity by attending a couple of Nar Anon meetings than could be offered here. Here's a link to find one in your area: Find a Group ? Nar-Anon Family Groups Mr. Lucky 1
notbroken Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 She asked for space. Give it to her. Lots of it. Move on and don't look back. Find someone that wants to be with you.
Chi townD Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 I would listen to Mr. Lucky and click on that link. They can help you with your current situation and give you the tools you need.
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