Ashley1985 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I was on the phone with my boyfriend a little earlier and we were talking about a particular subject and I wasn't finished saying what I had to say regarding that subject, but he said there was nothing else to talk about (in a joking matter) and didn't let me finish what i had to say. I told him that i was going to have to finish my train of thought before the conversation ended. After that, the conversation got slightly sour and all of a sudden the phone got disconnected. So, i thought he hung up on me because he has in the past several times. So, i didn't call back because i told him that i won't tolerate him hanging up the phone on me. He called back about 30 minutes later, but i didn't answer because i wasn't ready to speak to him until he apologized because i assumed he hung up on me like he usually does. He called again and that time i answered. When i answered, i immediately asked him "are you going to apologize for hanging up on me" and he went into his controlling ways and asked "so you saw my call and wasn't going to call me back" and i told him that i didn't answer his call or call him back because i thought he hung up on me. He told me that he didn't hang up on me, but that his phone died. So, he said "ok, since you didn't answer my call or call me back, now i'm telling you i'm hanging up" and hung up the phone. I know this may seem so petty, but i feel like i'm not in the wrong with this. Am I wrong or is he? Should i call back? Thoughts?
deathandtaxes Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 My thoughts? You both need to grow up and forget about this crapola. 1
Danda Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Ehh.. I lean more towards him being in the wrong. 1. He cuts you off and ha-ha dismisses your thoughts as not important. 2. He's hung up on you in the past. 3. So therefore he probably did hang up on you to put you in your place for insisting that you get to speak your opinion. 4. When he calls you and you don't pick up, he was probably expecting that, because he has a history of hanging up on you and knows how you react. By doing this, he can now flip the table and make you the bad guy. 5. Your only mistake is in falling for his bait by accusing him of hanging up on you, when your best approach would have been to ask (so then at least he couldn't pull this stunt). 6. He hangs up on you to punish you for thinking he hung up on you, because he's hung up on you multiple times before, when he very likely did hang up on you, to punish you for asserting self-respect. But here's the catch: It will only be your fault if you keep dating him. 2
bathtub-row Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 You need to lose this guy and fast. Do not EVER put up with a guy hanging up on you. And, by that, I don't mean go into a speech about how you won't put up with it. I mean drop him like a bad habit. This is a sign that he is disrespectful of women and this disrespect will come out in many, many other ways down the road. Do not let yourself get more deeply involved with him. It's a mistake! And just to answer your question, he's the one in the wrong because whether his phone really died or not, the truth is, he put that thought in your head because he has done it before. So, he set up this precedence for you to suspect that he, once again, hung up on you. If he had never hung up on you before, you would not have assumed that that is what he did. So, his fault for his bad, disrespectful behavior. Again, lose him. These kind of stupid arguments will never go away with a guy like this. 2
Diezel Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 So you don't want to talk to him until he calls and apologizes but when he calls, you don't pick up the phone. Yeah, like another poster said, you both need to grow up. 1
Chemist Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 D to R to AMA.... How old are you? I mean your posts talk about beer drinking at times, so I am guessing at least 21. One thing everyone really needs to learn, in my opinion, that if you want **** to work, it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. It is about sucking it up and calling him back and trying to keep communication open. Communication is the key to understanding each others feelings and needs, and this type of behavior is putting up walls to open communication. I don't think either of you are emotionally mature to have a real relationship, but what eves. Good luck.
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