lawbstar Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 It has been over a month since my ex gf of two years broke up with me. She is 18 and I am 19. Here is a timeline with some descriptions of what has happened: 2 or more weeks before breakup: -everything was fine except I was not able to see her too much because I was getting really busy with school and work 1 week before breakup: -she basically did not talk to me the whole week -things were very weird but I thought that she would talk to me about it day of breakup: -she tells me that is not working out -she said that I was not there for her when her bunny was sick (he had to have surgery. I took her to pick him up, but after, I could not stay long because I had to leave to do homework) -she said that she still loves me -she said that it may not be over forever -I feel like this is all related to me not having as much time as she would like for her week after breakup: -I tried calling/texting her a lot. -She never returned my calls, but she would text me back saying that she is sorry for missing my calls. -I told her that I miss her, and she said the she misses me too. -I wrote her a letter, dropped by her house to talk to her sister, and left the letter on her pillow. The letter was about the highlights of our relationship, and about how I still wanted to be with her. 2 weeks after breakup: -I called her and she picks up. I ask her to watch a movie with me. She asked me if I am asking her on a date. She said that she would go with me when the movie comes out. -Then, I finally try going NC -She ends up texting me asking how I am doing and says that we should meet up. -I see her later on in the week for dinner. -We only had small talk. -I felt very confused and upset after our encounter. -I brought our old ring that we each used to wear to dinner in case we got back together, so I could put it back on. 3-5 weeks after breakup: -I go back and forth from trying to keep up NC and contacting her through the phone/email. -I try to meet up with her a few times during this period, but we never met up. -Sometimes I feel okay, but I still feel like my world is a constant mess. now: -I asked her if we could meet for dinner after my exams. -She tells me that she has to work everyday for the next week, but says I can come over to see her now. -I go over. We just have small talk at first. She was watching tv, and she puts on a show she wanted to watch, so I sit there with her for an hour barely talking. -After the show, I ask her if we can talk. She said about what. I said I dont know. Then, I told her about how I felt that when she broke up with me, she either didn't actually love me anymore even though she said she did because if she did, she would have tried to be with me, or she did love me, but she did not want to come between me and school because I was really busy. However, now I am not as busy because I do not have to work anymore, and if you are still who I think you are, then maybe not now, but I want to try again. She tells me that she does not want a boyfriend right now because she has her hands full with working to pay for rent (she recently moved out). She said that she still cares for me and that she is okay with hanging out. However, I know that I am not okay with that. Then, she puts on another show and says that I do not have to stay. I tell her that I am going to leave, and ask her for a hug. We hug and I kiss her on the cheek before I leave. -I was hoping that things would be more clear to me by seeing her. However, I am not sure where I am now. I wanted to decide whether I would really move on now, or whether we would be together later. I feel like I should really move on and be the best me I can be, but seeing her today brought up too much of the past and I just miss her again now. I am not sure what to do. Please give me whatever advice, comments, suggestions you may have. Thank you and sorry for the wall of text.
deathandtaxes Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Move on. You're young yet. It's gonna hurt, and that's part of life. Go out and date more and maintain NC and just get on with your life. Don't be friends. Don't hang out. Be better than that.
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