FelicityS Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Hi! Get ready for a long question! I have a problem... I am interested in a guy, but I wonder if he is too old for me... I am 19 years old sophomore (almost 20) and I just transferred to a new college. I transferred here because I am working and paying my own way through college so I really couldn't afford a private college tuition. Most people think I am older than I am because I rent my own place (cost split with roommate) and I have a job, and people have told me i act mature. They usually guess at least 3 years older than I am. When I transferred here, I re-met someone I knew when I was little. I didn't know he went to the college, but he happened to attend the same club I started to go to each week on campus. He is 27 year old junior. He is still attending college because he joined the marines before coming here. Our families have been friends for longer than either of us have been around, but we lived in different states so I haven't seen him for years. We come from similar backgrounds and we hold the same values. We hang out at least once a week because of a college club we both are members of. I really like him, but I wonder, is he too old for me? Also, how can I show him that I am interested? The last time we saw each other before I came here was when I was 8 and he was 16... I think he thinks of me like a little sister. He is pretty protective, for example, sometimes our college club goes swing dancing together. There was a creepy guy not backing off, and he came and rescued me. It's happened more than once actually, either by asking for a dance, or telling the guy to back off. When we hang out, he often jokes about how old he is (he is a bit older than most of the people in our college friend circle). He also sometimes teases me about things he remembers me doing when I was little. I don't know... He is a really good guy, I like him, but I don't know how to make myself seem more like date material instead of little sisterly. And plus, am I too young to even try to catch his eye? Wow, that as long winded.. Advice and input most welcome
Els Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 A 7 year gap is not really too bad IMO, but it IS entirely possible that he does view you as a little sister. Especially since he first knew you when you were a child.
angel.eyes Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I don't know... He is a really good guy, I like him, but I don't know how to make myself seem more like date material instead of little sisterly. And plus, am I too young to even try to catch his eye? Wow, that as long winded.. Advice and input most welcome Flirt! Touch his forearm playfully when you chat. Laugh at his jokes, no matter how silly they are. Look in his eyes when he speaks. Compliment him. Ask him for help. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 In theory it's OK. In practice, how are you going to feel for the next year plus when he wants to go to bar with his friends & you can't go?
Author FelicityS Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 In theory it's OK. In practice, how are you going to feel for the next year plus when he wants to go to bar with his friends & you can't go? He doesn't actually drink, not for religious reasons, he just doesn't like the taste so that particular thing wouldn't really be a problem
venusishername Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Hi! Get ready for a long question! I have a problem... I am interested in a guy, but I wonder if he is too old for me... I am 19 years old sophomore (almost 20) and I just transferred to a new college. I transferred here because I am working and paying my own way through college so I really couldn't afford a private college tuition. Most people think I am older than I am because I rent my own place (cost split with roommate) and I have a job, and people have told me i act mature. They usually guess at least 3 years older than I am. When I transferred here, I re-met someone I knew when I was little. I didn't know he went to the college, but he happened to attend the same club I started to go to each week on campus. He is 27 year old junior. He is still attending college because he joined the marines before coming here. Our families have been friends for longer than either of us have been around, but we lived in different states so I haven't seen him for years. We come from similar backgrounds and we hold the same values. We hang out at least once a week because of a college club we both are members of. I really like him, but I wonder, is he too old for me? Also, how can I show him that I am interested? The last time we saw each other before I came here was when I was 8 and he was 16... I think he thinks of me like a little sister. He is pretty protective, for example, sometimes our college club goes swing dancing together. There was a creepy guy not backing off, and he came and rescued me. It's happened more than once actually, either by asking for a dance, or telling the guy to back off. When we hang out, he often jokes about how old he is (he is a bit older than most of the people in our college friend circle). He also sometimes teases me about things he remembers me doing when I was little. I don't know... He is a really good guy, I like him, but I don't know how to make myself seem more like date material instead of little sisterly. And plus, am I too young to even try to catch his eye? Wow, that as long winded.. Advice and input most welcome Aww, how sweet. No, he's not too old for you, and you're not too young to catch his eye, silly! He probably looks at you in a way like 'she's all grown up now, wow!'. Go for it! Just be a little flirtatious, touch his arm, laugh at his jokes, brush against him, bat your eyelashes, you know 1
MercuryMorrison1 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Nah, 7 years is nothing when both of you are already in your 20's essentially. As a matter of the fact I'm in a slimier situation myself now with a girl I've been seeing. She's 20 and I'm 26. My main concern would be / has been that we would not be able to connect very well because I know that when I was 20 I viewed a lot of things very differently than I do now at 26, but in our case, she and I seem to be on the same page for the most part, so why not right? As long as you the two of you can connect on a deeper level than just having sex for the sake of having sex, then I say go for it. It is my opinion that once you are 18 or older it's essentially up to you who you date, so long as they at themselves are 18 or older. Best of luck!
mysteryscape Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I remember noticing when my little sister's friends had "grown up" upon my return from college. Not too young for me! The age differences was 5 years, not 8. My guess is it wouldn't bother him at all. Go for it!
giblesp Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 No, you're definitely not too young to catch his eye. Make sure he's a good man and will treat you with respect.
cptkurt Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 I'm 27 and I like a girl who just turned 20. I'm a really nice guy and would give her the boots off my feet. Age doesn't mean ****.
AVarma Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 In theory it's OK. In practice, how are you going to feel for the next year plus when he wants to go to bar with his friends & you can't go? Do fake ID's not exist anymore?
nofeelings22 Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 Do fake ID's not exist anymore? They sure do, but it's not as easy as it used to be.
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