Ex-Boyfriend, moved on? rebound?

[louise0102]

Me and my ex boyfriend were together for nearly 9 months after seeing each other for 2 months so 11 months basically, we fell in love with each other very hard and had very similar personalities/interests, we had a very serious realationship. We also went on holiday for a week within our relationship to turkey. we got on like a house on fire and we really made each other so happy. The last month and a half of our relationship I pushed my ex away by pointless arugments all the time - i got insecure and stuff and i didnt appreciate him enough. He used to try tell me but I never listened. At the start of november we had an argument and he decided to call it a day on us, even a week before this when i saw he told me how he could never love anyone again like me, how special i was, how he would die for me best thing thats happened to him etc. We arranged to meet a few days later to talk about things after our text break up, and he told me didn't want a relationship anymore as he didnt want the commitment and he wanted to go out and have fun (as he lost his virginity to me) he asked me to wait for him for 3 months for when he was ready to commit again and how i am the girl he wants to marry and spend the rest of his life with but he needs his time to have fun and can't take the arguments anymore, he cried in my arms about it for about an hour. He begged for us to stay friends and to stay in contact and that he wanted to spend his birthday with me (1st december), he asked me not to date anyone but he told me needed to be happy as he had;t been recently with our arguments yet when we would see each other we would be so happy together, arguments were mainly over text. I stayed at his the night we broke up and in the morning he would make comments like i know this isn't the last time i wake up to your face, and how much he loved me and blah blah. He also told me he isn't going to date anyone again unless it's me in the future or Katy perry haha. Ever since the break up we have kept in contact near enough every day and he would tell me how much he had missed me and how he is finding this very difficult, and how he still has very very strong feelings for me and loves me. I realised a few days after we broke up the mistakes i had made of becoming clingy and insecure but he wasn't having any of it, I then found out that 3 days after we broke he had a friend of his over (a girl) called Emma, he told me he discussed our relationship with Emma. Ever since then him and Emma have become very close in contact and spending time with each other but he keeps telling me that it means nothing and that they are just friends. Emma in a way is quite similar to me as much as i hate to admit it, we have the same hair colour and kind of same clothes style and from looking on her social networking sites she does say some stuff similar to me.For his birthday we had plans, and he cancelled on me telling me something had come along and i found out on Facebook he went with emma, i sent him some very abusing messages. After he had left emma, he messaged me straight away saying "i had a lovely birthday thank you for asking louise.". The day after I messaged him saying how I hated him and so on, and how i never wanted him to speak to me again and he got very defensive telling me he likes emma and that he wants to have a future with her. He told me he fancied her before he met me yet i asked him why he didnt date her he had no reason, i told him there is a big difference between love and like as i know we genuinely did really love each other. The next day he apologised for what he had said and he said he wanted us to have a fresh start as friends with no more lies, and that night we spoke for 6 hours none stop like old times and he started tweeting stuff like 'the grass isn't always greener on the other side' - then he suddenly didnt reply. On the friday, i saw him on a night out and he saw me and started winking at me and kept smiling at me throughout the night. At the end of the night, I danced with another guy and he saw, he approached me and called me a desperate sl*t and other names, I slapped him. He followed me out of the club and kept going on and on and on about then he would say he didnt care nor is he jealous, he then left to get some food whilst eating it he sat from the restaurant watching me for about 20 mins outside the club. He then came back outside and I was on the phone to a guy i had met that night and he shouted at me again for speaking to a guy and called me a sl*t again and so on. He then asked me how i was getting home i told him a taxi, and his taxi came and we went our separate ways. He then text me as soon as he left me calling me a sl*g again for dancing with a guy and how it is embarrassing how i tried to do it in front of him, then he started telling me how now he has his girl emma nd how much she makes him happy. In the morning he text me again about the situtation then kept telling me about how he has emma and how happy he makes her. I then broke down and told him how I am changing and realised what a bad person I had become and all he kept saying was sorry laura, in the end i said i was happy he had found someone who makes him happy and he never replied. next day I saw on Facebook that they was in a realationship with emma, i never text him about it and now all he does is tweet her like 'love you' and all this crap, wanting a reaction from me. Is she a rebound? Has he genuinely moved on? He keeps trying to rub in my face, and he knows exactly what to say to make me angry. In my opinion he left me, and realised he needed to fill a hole of me, and he has done this with emma rather then coming back to me.I just want him back and to show I have changed because after our break up i have realised so much and how much i had changed into a person i was not - i am usually very laid back.

Edited December 10, 2014 by louise0102

[shadow_stang]

Block him, delete him, never speak to him again.

 

Never let someone talk down to you like he did at the club. No girl ever deserves to be called a slut, doesn't matter if he was angry, jealous, or whatever. And to be honest, both of you sound wrong for each other. There is no way I would be okay with a girl telling me that she needed time apart to experience her "wild phase" (similar to what he told you). If two people don't end up staying together, one of them going out and having casual sex with others out of curiosity, is def not going to repair or fix anything. I can tell you like this guy, which I don't see why you do, based on some of the things he has said, but some people in life you will learn, need to be let go.

 

Never let a guy talk to you like that again. And make sure he knows that's the reason you're through with him. And for you next boyfriend, try not to argue as much, and sit down and talk calmly with him about any problems or whatever. It will go better that way.

[Satu]

You need to build some self-esteem.

 

The next time someone insults you turn your back on them and walk away.

 

Don't look back - just walk.