feelingsingle Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Disclaimer: Im a full blown, born and bread liar. I haven't been single in nine years and Ive always been a cheater. My last relationship just ended six months ago. I ended because I knew that I didn't love him nor could I see myself marrying him. I was unfaithful and untrustworthy and he deserved better. End of July this year I met a guy that I fell hard for. Never have I ever felt this way about a man I dated slept with or was in a relationship with. He spent the first couple of months courting me and loving me. Hands down the best lover Ive had. He doesn't have his own place (lives with his uncle) but I do so he spends alot of time at my house. He opened up to me and told me one night that he use to be a male escort but was looking for something more and stopped about a year ago. This made me extremely nervous because we are physical. But he didn't hesitate when I asked for medical assurance. Std free, I thanked him for his honesty and we continued our relationship. About a month ago a friend told me that they heard a conversation he was having about ( in/out calls) but they assured me it was another guy on the other end. I approached him about this and he told me with no problem. He explained sometimes he gets calls from both guys and girls because he never changed his number. He would answer and sometimes entertain it but would never go through with it. It weirded me out because all I could think about was the fact that he would entertain another man regradless if he went through with it or not. He said somethings made it sound good and by this time Im head over heels so im just going along with it but it was still in the back of my mind. SideNote: He so call does freelance maintenance/repairs/computer work. Makes about $500.00 a day. But I have no proof of this. He comes and goes all hours of the day sometimes even really late at night. Must recently I got up the balls to go through his phone. I was just too skeptical about him I needed to know something. Going through his text messages (as quickly as possible) I saw he sent a picture of his penis to a guy name Frank and noted on the message " you ready for your daddy". Again I confronted him. And he told me the same thing he would entertain them but now he let me know that he would sometimes give guys erotic massages and spend time with them if they would pay he good money but nothing else. Sounds pretty homosexual to me what yall think? He still comes over and stays alot of days at my house but I haven't had sex with him since the phone incident. He hasn't been into sex lately either claiming he went our relationship to be more than sex because of his past. I really think he is gay and makes his money by being physical with men but I have no soild proof. I think im just waiting for him to be honest.
Mitzimojo Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 For you is it that he is gay or that he still could be a male escort? Did you he tell you that he was gay when you met or just that he used to be a paid escort and that he is into women? If he is gay then he will always be gay and you should just walk away. Even if he says that he wants to change. If he is a male escort and wants a relationship with you then you need to decide if you can deal with that. Talk to him. Tell him that you will support him if he is honest with you. And decide what you want. That is the key here. What do you want and need? Good luck, be strong and don't worry. Everything is going to be amazing.
beautifulinside2 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Um ewww. If he is even sending pictures like that to men he is gay "period". I don't understand what you are waiting on!
Jules Dash Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I can't help but get the feeling that if you walked in on him with his penis inside of another man that you would still be wondering if he is bi/gay. This is called "being blinded by love," dear.
MrMeh Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I don't get why this doesn't break it for you. Maybe it's different for you being on the other side of the fence. I think you should say bye to "daddy" on move on to somebody who doesn't need this type of attention.
Chemist Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I can't believe the lack of sexuality in these responses. First, OP, are you a female? I am guessing so. Second, he entertains both ladies and men, SO, he is not a gay man, but bisexual... if we're applying such labels. Some people are just sexual in general and don't care as long as the other person is attractive to them and never really think about it. No one, and I mean no one, gets 500 bucks a day for fixing computers. No effing way. Unless he somehow has built an empire of clients who constantly download spyware and are rich enough to pay this dude weekly to find their computers. You would have to have a shop to really make that kind of money. You know what you can make 500 bucks a day for doing? Being an escort, blowing dudes and taking loads in the ass. If you really want a relationship with this guy (Why? You suck at them, cheat all the time, and he is a prostitute... but who am I to judge?) then you need to tell him you're not comfortable with his job. I suggest you just move on and find something more normal.... Unless you live a lifestyle where this sort of **** is okay, then just have a talk with him.
Author feelingsingle Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Thank you all for you comments. I really appreciate you taking the time.I'm feeling the same way its best if I just move on. I guess I just wish he felt that he could be open and honest regradless. I can't ask him for that he has to want it. Thanks again everyone.
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