AVarma Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I knew some people in college who were in a friends with benefits situation with different girls. Unfortunately I never had that opportunity. So does one get into these kinds of relationships as an adult? By the way the question is wrong. It should be "Where do you find F**ck buddies as an adult?".
Danda Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Don't worry, I started off here in the sexual health forums asking the same question because I wasn't sure, either, and thought my only options were Craigslist and asking random cute guys in stores lol. I guess something called Tinder (I still haven't checked it out yet) is for people who just want casual stuff, and then you can also use a site called OKCupid and just put in your profile that you only want something casual / FWB (checked this one out and might be giving it a try soon). So it looks like it's all done online. Maybe some people find a FWB in clubs/bars as well but I'm not big on bars, and plus it's difficult to really gauge someone's long-term interests (as opposed to what they want for just that very night) when they are drunk.
Dork Vader Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I've found them in all different places. Let's say I'm dating someone and we both have no interest in a relationship but bith want sex.. Tada you have a friends with benefits. Have a female friend and we are both single but have no romantic feelings towards each other. We both want sex so we start banging. It typically comes out of situations a long thise lines. But they rarely last long, someone gets emotionally attached or something happens. I've also found them on adultfriendfinder, but I will warn you them men out number the women 1000 to one or worse. So your odds of meeting someone in that website are slim. I will also caution you, i have 2 std's I got both from being fairly casual about sex...
venusishername Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Don't worry, I started off here in the sexual health forums asking the same question because I wasn't sure, either, and thought my only options were Craigslist and asking random cute guys in stores lol. I guess something called Tinder (I still haven't checked it out yet) is for people who just want casual stuff, and then you can also use a site called OKCupid and just put in your profile that you only want something casual / FWB (checked this one out and might be giving it a try soon). So it looks like it's all done online. Maybe some people find a FWB in clubs/bars as well but I'm not big on bars, and plus it's difficult to really gauge someone's long-term interests (as opposed to what they want for just that very night) when they are drunk. Tinder has a bad rap for those people who use it for that reason. Not everyone who is on there is looking for random sex. The good thing about the online thing is that you put that in your profile so it's CRYSTAL CLEAR what you are looking for.
Frank2thepoint Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I will also caution you, i have 2 std's I got both from being fairly casual about sex... And here is the punchline kids. 2
CarrieT Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 AdultFriendFinders-dot-com, PlentyOfFish-dot-com, Tinder, Craigslist...
elaine567 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I knew some people in college who were in a friends with benefits situation with different girls. Unfortunately I never had that opportunity. So does one get into these kinds of relationships as an adult? By the way the question is wrong. It should be "Where do you find F**ck buddies as an adult?". Why are you swarming all over the forum with these sort of threads. For God's sake just go and find a nice girl, get a relationship going and lose your virginity. Or go on OLD and get a hook up with a stranger and lose your virginity. BUT as Dork Vader pointed out STD's may be a bit of a complication in casual sex with random strangers. Lose your virginity and gain an STD...
Danda Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Just don't lose your virginity doing anything wild. Make out, grope it up, manual stimulation and then intercourse with a condom. During manual stimulation get a good look and make sure there are no sores or anything. Then you'll probably be fine. If you meet someone off of Craigslist and have bareback anal sex and eat her out, then you might get herpes or something. So just be smart about sex with strangers. Some people get really unlucky and it sucks, but there are ways you can reduce your risks, too.
normal person Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Online is probably your best bet. The fact that you can sort of hide behind a computer screen a bit makes it pretty impersonal. I don't use Tinder but from what I hear that sort of thing is not uncommon there. Speaking from experience, OKCupid might lend itself to that sort of thing too. Plenty of people aren't as shy as you might think. Last night a girl messaged, I told her I was going through some girl trouble and my heart wasn't in dating at the moment and told her could do a "friends" sort of thing for a bit (I meant strictly platonic). Eventually she asked me to clarify: "a friend, or a 'friend' who's going to end up in your bed? Because I'm down for either." That isn't really my thing personally, but if you look you never know what you might find.
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