Any recommended diet for first dinner date? (Updated)

[Gloria25]

I guess I'm more wondering why eating is an issue in particular.

 

Don't strive for "perfection," no one's perfect. Try to be genuine. Is your style of eating so out of the ordinary that you think it's a potential turn-off? I have never, not once, considered the way a man ate on a date. If anything, when my BF and I started dating, he had a tendency to eat like a bird (very little), and that caught my attention. Turns out, he just eats like that. But I'd have thought it very strange if he'd eaten like that at first and then it turns out that he naturally devours his food.

 

It is smart to make a good first impression. I just think maybe your focus is too much pinpointed on this one area. Be genuine. Be authentic. Perfection is a pipe dream, and any woman who would hold you to some standard of it is not someone you want to be spending your life with.

 

Thank you ^^...

 

I mean, even the 'guy who ate with a fork instead of a fork and knife' I went on a first date with was not immediately launched - there were other things that were going that made my interest in him wane.

 

But seriously, who eats with a fork at dinner with others? One of my fondest memories was my dad teaching me how to eat with a fork and knife when I was like maybe 4 or 5 or 6 years old. Geesh.

 

One time, I went to a formal dinner with some people in the military, and one of them took a knife and used it to stir their sweet tea. Do you need someone to tell you that what you did has no class? Really?

 

Mind you, I come from a dysfunctional family and we lived in poverty - yet, I somehow figured out how to conduct myself in public.

 

I'm not perfect, and I learn everyday new things. When I'm at home, and in the privacy of my room, I eat so bad and fast at times like I need a bib to wipe myself. Shoot, sometimes I'll just wipe my hands in my shirt or something. Will you catch me doing that in front of guests, a guy, and/or in public? Nope.

 

Relax, be yourself, but seriously, I think you'd know when you're doing something rude and/or off-beat.

[organizedchaos]

I'm afraid the answer is no.

 

Then I don't understand why you're asking these common sense questions?

[Darren2013]

Then I don't understand why you're asking these common sense questions?

 

What's common sense to you isn't necessarily common sense to everyone else. That's a very relative notion. If we could not ask these questions then we really would have no business being on LS and this forum would not even exist. If everything was black and white then why are we even on this forum? Part of the reason for being here is to address "common sense" questions and not to put someone down for asking a question that you consider to be common sense. If this isn't the right place to ask these kind of questions then where else am I going to go? Better to ask questions here than to ask them while out on a date.

[Satu]

Is there any special food you would recommend that I order for myself on a first dinner date with a woman? I mean if I take her to Applebee's then what would be best to order off the menu so she isn't turned off by my food choices? Also of there are is a large size option vs. smaller size which one would be more attractive to order?

 

You're going to take her out for junk food?

 

Don't bother, you've blown it already.

[organizedchaos]

What's common sense to you isn't necessarily common sense to everyone else. That's a very relative notion. If we could not ask these questions then we really would have no business being on LS and this forum would not even exist. If everything was black and white then why are we even on this forum? Part of the reason for being here is to address "common sense" questions and not to put someone down for asking a question that you consider to be common sense. If this isn't the right place to ask these kind of questions then where else am I going to go? Better to ask questions here than to ask them while out on a date.

 

Come on:

 

How many minutes should I wait between bites before taking my next bite?

 

Seriously?

[Diezel]

What's the dislike about chain restaurants?

 

You mean, other than the food?

[rester]

Ok then that brings me to my next question. How many minutes should I wait between bites before taking my next bite? I see the importance of talking between bites but for how many minutes between bites? Obviously I don't want to wait too long between bites because then both of our foods will get cold. So maybe 2-3 minute conversation between bites?

 

I'd say about a minute, unless you are talking. Take small bites so if you need to say something you don't have to hurry up and finish chewing.

 

You could also get one of those chess clocks and have your date hit the button when it's your time to either talk or eat.

[Gloria25]

You mean, other than the food?

 

Look, I am not saying they got gourmet food. I mean, even ethnic places like cook what my family does I don't like. I always complain to mum that we cook it better.

 

But, if you just don't feel like pulling out the pots and pans and want to be "served", chain restaurants aren't that bad.

 

I mean, the other day I wanted tacos and was too lazy to cook up the taco kit. I went to Taco Bell....Eh, but sometimes the time you spend driving to/from the restaurant and waiting on the food, you probably could have done cooked it yourself.

[Gloria25]

Why not take her someplace where you can just have a lot of fun? Get her to laugh. And then grab some food at some little hole in the wall place and laugh about your day. Keep it light and fun. Dinner dates are so darn serious for a first date.

 

Yeah, I mean like a Dave and Buster's. That is light and fun.

[Diezel]

I mean, the other day I wanted tacos and was too lazy to cook up the taco kit. I went to Taco Bell....

 

I am so sorry for your intestines lol

[Gloria25]

Are you just making these posts up to mess with everyone here?

 

Nah, I believe he's using our advice in real life - especially mine. What I can't figure out is how some people can pick certain venues I frequent(ed)/like based on something I posted here and don't have on my Facebook...which isn't bad in itself, cuz shows that whomever is reading my posts sorta good at reading what I like/dislike.

 

Funny, it's like I'm playing Cyrano de Bergerac here...but not to aid the gal who is in love with the guy I want to date (like in the movies/plays), but to involuntarily help the guy I want to date impress other females.

 

In essence, instead of some gal coming to me for advice on how to woo a the guy I secretly want to be with...the guy I want to woo is taking my advice to woo other women. Also, I must at admit that when I saw that, my heart sank into the ground - on top of everything else I was dealing with last week. Eh, but now that my lady stuff is over, I am handling it a lot better.

 

Classy, classy I say.

 

Actually, I was joking with my gf the other day and told her that I guess I'm going to have to teach whomever is reading my posts how to boink her too.

Edited December 16, 2014 by Gloria25

[Darren2013]

I think I've come up with a better solution for those dinner dates. Take her where she wants to go and then let her order her food first. Then I will order the same thing she is getting. This way there's no chance she will take issue with what I'm eating. A guy should let a woman order first anyway since it is good manners to let ladies go first. Let ladies go first through the door. Let ladies go first when ordering food. The advantage is I will know what she is ordering and then I can order the same thing. Case closed!