Any recommended diet for first dinner date? (Updated)

[Darren2013]

He can still pick the place. He just needs to get an idea of the types of foods she likes. Dont take her to a steakhouse if she's a vegetarian! <<<< helpful hint!

 

 

And if she's a vegetarian don't eat meat in front of her as that might be a turn off.

[Gloria25]

And if she's a vegetarian don't eat meat in front of her as that might be a turn off.

 

OMG, we already addressed this in a past thread....

 

You can't "hide" who you are from someone...Besides you shouldn't "hide" who you are from someone, cuz being in a RL where you can't be yourself is annoying and stressful.

 

But, IMO, you shouldn't do things that aren't appropriate. For example, someone suggested no ribs, beans, etc. Don't order something that's gonna give you gas and/or get your hands sticky. Bad impression on a first date.

 

Also, if you don't wanna turn someone off, then don't order a supper, triple patty hamburger with bacon, three cheeses - with a side of chile cheese fries. While you may enjoy that occasionally with a beer or two in the privacy of your own home, again, you are on a first date. Just order a burger and fries.

 

But seriously, if she's on some special diet and/or has some views on eating meat - and gets offended if you're not a vegan, vegetarian, or what-have-you. Then launch, IMO. Cuz, why be with someone who doesn't respect your desire to eat meat?

 

I have siblings who are vegetarians - last time we had a party, we served meat, meat, and meat. We did have a veggie platter and rice and stuff so she wouldn't starve. But we were gonna have a veggie platter and rice anyways - if she was offended, I sure didn't hear it or would have cared. Rude to impose your beliefs upon others. Eat what you want. We served for both meat eaters and veggies - that's all that counts, that there was variety in food for everyone.

[DivorcedDad123]

No, you eat what you want to eat. Dont fake it. You're just being polite to her tastes when youask her what she likes and putting forth an effort so that she can enjoy the meal also. If she doesnt like steak, suggest italian. This gives you a good reason to call and talk to her prior to your date;)

[DivorcedDad123]

See? Great minds & all...

[genuinelyloverly7]

I saw a Regis and Kelly episode almost 10 years ago, and what Kelly said still resonates with me. (Disclaimer- I cannot BELIEVE I am quoting a TV show of such insignificant magnitude! I don't even have cable or TV channels any more!)

 

She said something like this: I always eat light if I want to have sex. Nothing heavy to weigh me down. So hubby always knows if I'm in the mood, by what I order.

 

Now, I'm NOT saying all, or even any other women think like this. But I do. So some others must also. And this may not be the advice your looking for for a first date, but keep it in mind for the third or fourth or whenever… don't take a woman to a steakhouse or for Italian the night you want her to fill herself up on… okay, you get the picture.

 

But it's true! Heavy foods make you tired or lethargic, a tad bloated, and at the very least, well… heavy. So go for any kind of Asian food, or soup/salad of some kind (or even pizza because you can always heat it back up after a slice or two), and leave the filling up to dessert.

[Redhead14]

Is there any special food you would recommend that I order for myself on a first dinner date with a woman? I mean if I take her to Applebee's then what would be best to order off the menu so she isn't turned off by my food choices? Also of there are is a large size option vs. smaller size which one would be more attractive to order?

 

This is the most extreme case of overthinking I've seen here. You order whatever you like. You are worried that she will be turned off by what you order? Paaleez! Order what you like. I'm not trying to be mean, but . . .

[Darren2013]

How many women here observe a guy's portion sizes on his plate? Like if there are 2 options of sizes of the same entree to order on the menu. Are you more turned off if he orders for example the 12 ounce steak instead of the 8 ounce steak? I suspect that to play it safe I would order the smallest size steak on the menu. The smaller portion sizes the better just so she doesn't think I am a pig.

[FitChick]

Don't order spaghetti.

[bachdude]

Is there any special food you would recommend that I order for myself on a first dinner date with a woman? I mean if I take her to Applebee's then what would be best to order off the menu so she isn't turned off by my food choices? Also of there are is a large size option vs. smaller size which one would be more attractive to order?

 

Why not take her someplace where you can just have a lot of fun? Get her to laugh. And then grab some food at some little hole in the wall place and laugh about your day. Keep it light and fun. Dinner dates are so darn serious for a first date.

[Darren2013]

Why not take her someplace where you can just have a lot of fun? Get her to laugh. And then grab some food at some little hole in the wall place and laugh about your day. Keep it light and fun. Dinner dates are so darn serious for a first date.

 

 

I plan dinner dates for the 2nd date.

[losangelena]

A man's food portion has never factored into attraction for me.

 

That's just me.

[rester]

Is there any special food you would recommend that I order for myself on a first dinner date with a woman? I mean if I take her to Applebee's then what would be best to order off the menu so she isn't turned off by my food choices? Also of there are is a large size option vs. smaller size which one would be more attractive to order?

 

Depending on what you have available in your area, I suggest Japanese (sushi or other), Middle Eastern (can get an assortment of finger foods to share, like hummus and falafel), Spanish tapas (small plates to share), Indian, Thai, Chinese, Mexican, or even pizza. Of course, ask her if she's into a specific type of food before you go to make sure she's open to it.

[organizedchaos]

How many women here observe a guy's portion sizes on his plate? Like if there are 2 options of sizes of the same entree to order on the menu. Are you more turned off if he orders for example the 12 ounce steak instead of the 8 ounce steak? I suspect that to play it safe I would order the smallest size steak on the menu. The smaller portion sizes the better just so she doesn't think I am a pig.

 

You really tend to overthink things, don't you?

[Darren2013]

There's something else I should mention that may be important to the discussion. I eat my food very fast. It is something I've been used to doing for years maybe because I have limited time to eat on my breaks at work. I don't chew my food as thoroughly as I should.

 

Would you recommend that I time things so that I finish my plate at the same time my date finishes her plate? Would it turn her off if I finish my plate before she does? If so then I would have to factor in portion sizes as well as the speed at which I eat my food. What if I finish 5 minutes before she does? How do women feel if they are finished with their plate before the guy is finished with his?

[Gaeta]

How many women here observe a guy's portion sizes on his plate? Like if there are 2 options of sizes of the same entree to order on the menu. Are you more turned off if he orders for example the 12 ounce steak instead of the 8 ounce steak? I suspect that to play it safe I would order the smallest size steak on the menu. The smaller portion sizes the better just so she doesn't think I am a pig.

 

On the contrary, I like a man that eats. If he orders a 12 ounce steak then I won't be embarrassed to order the 8 ounce one for myself. By ordering a small meal you will make HER feel uncomfortable for ordering a bigger plate than you. Deep down we know we're not suppose to eat more than our man. Don't go ordering a salad for goodness sake. Eat like a man is suppose to and enjoy it. A man that enjoys food also enjoys sex. Also what ever you pick will indicate the price range you're willing to spend so don't order cheap. If you pick a burger at $15 she's not going to order the rib-steak at $49.

[organizedchaos]

There's something else I should mention that may be important to the discussion. I eat my food very fast. It is something I've been used to doing for years maybe because I have limited time to eat on my breaks at work. I don't chew my food as thoroughly as I should.

 

Would you recommend that I time things so that I finish my plate at the same time my date finishes her plate? Would it turn her off if I finish my plate before she does? If so then I would have to factor in portion sizes as well as the speed at which I eat my food. What if I finish 5 minutes before she does? How do women feel if they are finished with their plate before the guy is finished with his?

 

Are you just making these posts up to mess with everyone here?

[Darren2013]

Are you just making these posts up to mess with everyone here?

 

I'm afraid the answer is no.

[smackie9]

OK my recommendation is to take her to one of those foodie places that doesn't look like much but the food is insanely good. Remember you shouldn't do fancy, keep it simple and inexpensive. Next instead of focusing on finishing your food before the timer goes off, between bites, converse with her instead of shoveling it into your face. Good conversation is crucial during a date. If you savor the time with her, then you can savor the food as well. You are an adult, I'm sure you can show some restraint during dinner.

[Darren2013]

Ok then that brings me to my next question. How many minutes should I wait between bites before taking my next bite? I see the importance of talking between bites but for how many minutes between bites? Obviously I don't want to wait too long between bites because then both of our foods will get cold. So maybe 2-3 minute conversation between bites?

[GemmaUK]

Eat what you usually eat, don't talk with your mouth full, it's gross!

[smackie9]

Ok then that brings me to my next question. How many minutes should I wait between bites before taking my next bite? I see the importance of talking between bites but for how many minutes between bites? Obviously I don't want to wait too long between bites because then both of our foods will get cold. So maybe 2-3 minute conversation between bites?

 

You go with the flow of conversation. You ask her a question, make a comment, then take a few bites. repeat. You are not a machine and time it, you have to let things go at their own pace. 10- 20 seconds? maybe, if that helps.

[losangelena]

Hopefully the date will be going well enough that you're not thinking about the food.

 

I agree with the others. Order something you'd enjoy, and just try and pace yourself a bit. Eating on a date is not a speed eating competition. You're there for the company and not the food, hopefully.

 

Can I ask a question? Is there a reason why this is such a big deal for you? I'm just curious. You don't have to answer.

[Darren2013]

Hopefully the date will be going well enough that you're not thinking about the food.

 

I agree with the others. Order something you'd enjoy, and just try and pace yourself a bit. Eating on a date is not a speed eating competition. You're there for the company and not the food, hopefully.

 

Can I ask a question? Is there a reason why this is such a big deal for you? I'm just curious. You don't have to answer.

 

 

Well because early on in dating it is important to make a good first impression and so the idea is to strive for perfection and paying attention to detail.

 

I get the feeling that most women are looking for a reason to reject a man and that is the default setting in their thinking. It is up to him to put in as much effort as possible to give her a reason not to reject him for the time being. Her default setting is that she will reject a guy unless he somehow gives her a reason to accept another date.

 

I could talk about what to wear on that first date but that's for another thread.

[losangelena]

I guess I'm more wondering why eating is an issue in particular.

 

Don't strive for "perfection," no one's perfect. Try to be genuine. Is your style of eating so out of the ordinary that you think it's a potential turn-off? I have never, not once, considered the way a man ate on a date. If anything, when my BF and I started dating, he had a tendency to eat like a bird (very little), and that caught my attention. Turns out, he just eats like that. But I'd have thought it very strange if he'd eaten like that at first and then it turns out that he naturally devours his food.

 

It is smart to make a good first impression. I just think maybe your focus is too much pinpointed on this one area. Be genuine. Be authentic. Perfection is a pipe dream, and any woman who would hold you to some standard of it is not someone you want to be spending your life with.

[GemmaUK]

Well because early on in dating it is important to make a good first impression and so the idea is to strive for perfection and paying attention to detail.

 

I get the feeling that most women are looking for a reason to reject a man and that is the default setting in their thinking. It is up to him to put in as much effort as possible to give her a reason not to reject him for the time being. Her default setting is that she will reject a guy unless he somehow gives her a reason to accept another date.

 

I could talk about what to wear on that first date but that's for another thread.

 

 

If you eat a salad but you look like you don't usually eat salads then she will suss it - you know that - yes?

 

 

If she likes you, how you look and finds your company good, chemistry there and she is having fun then what you eat is irrelevant (unless of course you eat 3 big macs and large fries in one sitting).

 

 

Her default is that she liked him enough to meet him - if this is online or she doesn't know him well then she is unlikely to be investing much into it

Then she will see if he is attractive to her and whether they get along enough to go on a date.