pteromom Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 A lot of the weirdness seems to be coming from inside your own head though. If you want to call her, call her. If you are thinking about her, send her a little text message letting her know that. If you want her walls to come down, you have to show her it is safe for her to knock them down. No game playing. Just call when you want to call, show her you are thinking about her, and relax.
Author 3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 A lot of the weirdness seems to be coming from inside your own head though. If you want to call her, call her. If you are thinking about her, send her a little text message letting her know that. If you want her walls to come down, you have to show her it is safe for her to knock them down. No game playing. Just call when you want to call, show her you are thinking about her, and relax. It's just that we haven't gone a day without talking and yesterday was the first...so it was a little strange to me.
Author 3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 It's just that we haven't gone a day without talking and yesterday was the first...so it was a little strange to me. Not to mention the abrupt endings to her text messages with no explanation
Author 3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 just sent her a text saying "How are you? Just thinking about you."...she said, "I'm ok, just busy with the kiddo as usual. How are you? I said, "Good, just thinking we haven't had a date in a while do you want to do something?" She said, "Sure, I may be able to get away after my last class thing tonight." So she's open to a date, but do I bring up the behavior or just see how the night goes and how she acts around me (her actions)
elaine567 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 just sent her a text saying "How are you? Just thinking about you."...she said, "I'm ok, just busy with the kiddo as usual. How are you? I said, "Good, just thinking we haven't had a date in a while do you want to do something?" She said, "Sure, I may be able to get away after my last class thing tonight." So she's open to a date, but do I bring up the behavior or just see how the night goes and how she acts around me (her actions) Just be as affectionate and nice as you can be, make her feel wanted and I am sure it will all turn out well.
Author 3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 Just be as affectionate and nice as you can be, make her feel wanted and I am sure it will all turn out well. Now I'm completely nervous...should I have flowers? I've never done anything like that for her so I was thinking of some nice flowers when she shows up...this class has been killing her and today is the last day. Thought it would be a nice gesture on all fronts. 1
beautifulinside2 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I have to wonder if she is using him? I was a single young parent at one point now my daughter is 19, but I use to date just for the free meals and movies etc that I didn't have the money to pay for myself. All this time spent and you haven't met her daughter? She could be a bit stressed so I don't want to jump to conclusions.
Author 3rdone Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 I have to wonder if she is using him? I was a single young parent at one point now my daughter is 19, but I use to date just for the free meals and movies etc that I didn't have the money to pay for myself. All this time spent and you haven't met her daughter? She could be a bit stressed so I don't want to jump to conclusions. First date was Oct 20th...I thought the same thing, but that's a lot to give up for a meal and a movie...if you know what I mean
Author 3rdone Posted December 12, 2014 Author Posted December 12, 2014 (edited) ok update...we had a talk on Wed. I asked her if we were ok and she said yes why? I said because she's been a little distant and she said it's not you or anything to do with you. She said I have a lot of sh#% going on right now, family drama, I need to get my life together, I can't keep doing nothing. Then she says I can't get so caught up in you that I don't do what I need to do to get my life together... med school, job etc. She then said that I know that sounds bad but it's not you at all. I asked if she wanted to end it and she said no. I then asked if she wanted me to back off and give her space..again she said no. Then she says, I'm not seeing anyone else. She said that there's no one to watch her kid because her mom is going back to working full time so during the week she can't, and that the next few weekends she has stuff going on, bachelorette party, next weekend sisters graduation in another state she is going to, and then Christmas. She said it won't be like this all the time but right now this is it. She then said you literally get ALL my free time and this is a lot for me. She said the last guy she dated she only saw once a week. She said I know that's not good for you but that's just how it is right now. She kept saying we were fine. Of course we kiss pretty passionately for a while smiling etc... (no sex this time) and she leaves. ...The next day (Thurs) I hear nothing from her so I text her to be careful out there in the rain (she hates rain) and have a good day...she text me 3 hours later saying I don't feel good and I hope I'm not getting sick and the rain is not helping. I was in a meeting so I text her when I got out at 5 (about 3 hours later) saying I'm sorry you're sick I hope you feel better....Haven't heard from her since. This is becoming a pattern. She didn't text much at all when we started dating, but this is getting ridiculous not to mention we don't we don't see each other that much....Why won't she just end it? She still has shoes here she won't take home as well. Why string this out if you're losing interest, want out, etc...? Why the no contact? Edited December 12, 2014 by 3rdone
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