CrudeMood Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I just desperately need some answers. We met online. Hit it off right away. This was a year ago. We had a long distance thing going on for a while. Then, we broke up because we both couldn't handle the distance. She lives in US while I live in Canada. The end got pretty rocky. We lasted for maybe 4 months. I went to visit her twice in the 4 months but that wasn't enough. Then when we finally broke up. We stopped talking for 2 months and we started talking again. Then she called me and called me. She flirted with me tried to keep me around. She acted so nice and sweet just how she used to. I kept trying to be strong and telling myself she was only here to hurt me. I gave in. I'm so stupid. Then when I told her I still wanted her... she told me she wanted to take things slow because she wanted to see if we could get back together. We messed around a little bit, sexually. I was stupid enough to take the bait. I thought I would finally get what I wanted out of life. For that brief moment, I was so happy. I guess not. Then couple of weeks past and she dropped the big bomb on me telling me that she couldn't get back together with me because she wasn't feeling it. She told me straight out she didn't want to date women anymore. I felt so stupid. I saw this coming, yet I gave into her. Why are people so evil? Why did she come back into my life to hurt me? I even told myself she was coming back into my life to hurt me. Why did I even give into her? I'm smarter than this. She gave me false hope. Sigh. I'm finally cutting her off for good today. I need some advice please. How do I stay strong enough to stay away? I'm feeling really ****ty right now. I'd really appreciate it.
tikay00 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Now you see her true colors, and all you gotta do is go NC. By now you've probably every single thing about NC, and how to get over your ex. Do those things lol. That's the only way. You're not gonna get a magic answer from anyone on here. We've all been through it, and the #1 thing that will help you through the pain is knowing EVERYONE has gone through it, and came out healed. You have to want to move on. Simple and plain. 2
toffeecream77 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 She probably missed you and you loved her. It happens. Don't beat yourself up over it. If anything, it shows what a loving, considerate and forgiving person you are. Those are admirable qualities that a quality partner would appreciate more than anything. Hold your head up high and walk away. Keep busy. Look after yourself. Treat yourself. When you start to think about her, quickly jump up and do or think about something else. I know this probably doesn't give you much comfort now, but you will move on, have a happier life without her and eventually find somebody far more deserving of your love. You never know what's around the corner 3
irresolute Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 People do this kind of things. She wasn't probably sure if she wanted to be with you or not and she was bored or lonely so she flirted with you. But when you gave in, she backed off because it wasn't fun anymore for her. She only wanted to mess around out of boredom or whatever. You fell hard for her again, she gt tired anyway. She got what she wanted: your attention. Yes, people do this kind of things. I have been there too. I still am. Just move on. Never look back. She is drama, and you deserve to be treated with love, not to be played. 2
Author CrudeMood Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 People do this kind of things. She wasn't probably sure if she wanted to be with you or not and she was bored or lonely so she flirted with you. But when you gave in, she backed off because it wasn't fun anymore for her. She only wanted to mess around out of boredom or whatever. You fell hard for her again, she gt tired anyway. She got what she wanted: your attention. Yes, people do this kind of things. I have been there too. I still am. Just move on. Never look back. She is drama, and you deserve to be treated with love, not to be played. You really think she did this? If so, it makes me feel even worse because won. I tried so hard to resist her, trust me. She continued to contact me even though I only gave her crumbs and she kept trying. I really hoped it wasn't this. Well, I wouldn't put it past her, she is 11 years my junior. I don't think at her age she knows what she wants. I gave her the benefit of the doubt though because of the sucker I became. Was she just playing a game or what? I guess I'll never have the answers. I knew it wouldn't be any good asking her these questions either. I just left and deleted every memory and social media contact we had with each other. I know I want to walk away. I'm going to do it this time. Last time she came crawling back and our communications were still open with each other. This time she won't be able to. It sucks that I have to go through with it once again. It was pretty hard the first time but I know its for good this time. She was a like a drug to me, I couldn't walk away. Every time she messaged me I would come running. She would throw me crumbs and I would run back like a lost puppy. It was insane the hold she had on me. I've never been such a sucker for someone before that made me put my dignity and pride on the line like that which makes me really appreciate your advice guys. It gives me strength to walk away form this.
tikay00 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 You really think she did this? If so, it makes me feel even worse because won. I tried so hard to resist her, trust me. She continued to contact me even though I only gave her crumbs and she kept trying. I really hoped it wasn't this. Well, I wouldn't put it past her, she is 11 years my junior. I don't think at her age she knows what she wants. I gave her the benefit of the doubt though because of the sucker I became. Was she just playing a game or what? I guess I'll never have the answers. I knew it wouldn't be any good asking her these questions either. I just left and deleted every memory and social media contact we had with each other. I know I want to walk away. I'm going to do it this time. Last time she came crawling back and our communications were still open with each other. This time she won't be able to. It sucks that I have to go through with it once again. It was pretty hard the first time but I know its for good this time. She was a like a drug to me, I couldn't walk away. Every time she messaged me I would come running. She would throw me crumbs and I would run back like a lost puppy. It was insane the hold she had on me. I've never been such a sucker for someone before that made me put my dignity and pride on the line like that which makes me really appreciate your advice guys. It gives me strength to walk away form this. The only way she won is if you pine for her for the rest of your life, and never find happiness elsewhere, without her. 1
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