gogoboots Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 For the past 3 weeks, I've noticed a change in communication. He no longer is the 1st to text, nor does he send any sentimental texts (such as "Good morning, beautiful" or "I love you."). We both thought we were about to be reunited because he received a job offer in the city where I live. However, it fell through and we were both disappointed and saddened that we'll have to do this long-distance thing for longer. Anyway, I've noticed his shift in communication. Could it be related to the rejected job offer? Or am I being over-analytical? He does respond (after several hours) to a text I send but not to all of them. I sometimes feel like I'm coming off as desperate trying to get attention from him. Should I wait til he comes around or will that drive him further away? He also said in text that he doesn't want to talk. And that texts were fine for now. I should also probably mention that we had a minor argument about my attitude. He often thinks I'm in a bad mood when really I'm not. I thought it was a minor argument but perhaps there's something more I'm not getting.
justwhoiam Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Is he the same guy you've been with for the past 1.5 years? He made it clear he wants to drag it out with you. And it looks like that's exactly what he's doing. How can you accept being with a boyfriend who says "I don't want to talk to you"? That'd be unacceptable to me, unless there was a conversation before that, and we agreed to some kind of temporary break, for whatever reason.
An0nymiss666 Posted December 12, 2014 Posted December 12, 2014 I'm going through *almost* the same thing right now, it's a scary coincidence. He's only been acting this way for a week and a half and it drives me to tears almost every day. However, we did not start out as long distance, but thought we'd work it out after he got a really good job in another state. As far as not talking on the phone, I don't understand that. It could mean anything, or nothing. i.e.) He doesn't want to talk to YOU, or he's just a typical guy and doesn't want to talk on the phone. I don't know, I didn't hear him say it. Either way, I'd say talking on the phone is pretty important in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I don't really talk that much, but we didn't really set standards for that either. Even though he doesn't answer all of your texts, you need to somehow figure out what's on his mind. Does he not love you anymore? Is he just less enthused about the relationship right now or does he want to split up? It's not like you guys can go on forever like this. My boyfriend and I also had a small argument (more like tense conversation) about MY "attitude," and it seemed like even though he was acting normal before, he was holding in all of these feelings that came out, and he hasn't acted the same since. Was it kind of like that? Do you think he has been feeling this way for a while, or maybe he's just in a mood? I hope you update as soon as you can. It just depends on what's going on with him. It doesn't sound too bad, but it's definitely a problem.
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