tiffcook82 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Hello. My bf and I met at work in February of this year and we dated for like five months then he broke it off because we couldn't see each other that often and he got scared. Then back in September I contacted him to ask a question. So we got to talking again and he felt really bad about what he did and he wanted me back that he couldn't stop thinking about me so it took me a while to decide if that's what I really wanted to do because I was talking to someone at that time. His ex is crazy from what I'm told and I've met her once and she went crazy on him that day by smaking him and tearing up his car. She as also said bad things about him not taking care of his kid all over Facebook. None of his family like her. She wouldn't let him see his son and now all of a sudden after she filed for child support a fee days ago she is acting all nice to him and his family. She tried to add him back on Facebook he texted her giving her his number because of the kid and he said he told her to only text him about the kid. I dont know if they have been talking about other stuff besides the kid. He never did add her back on Facebook he said he wants nothing to do with her that he just wants to see his son. Should I ask him if they are talking about other stuff, should I be worried, why would she want to add him back on Facebook does she want him back and are they still in love with each other? They dated for two years and he says he wants nothing to do with her at all that he wants to be with me for a long time that he is scared to lose me again. I just don't know what to think about the whole thing anymore and if you guys could help I would appreciate it. And by the way he tried so hard to get me back too and went to my sister for help with trying to get me back. Thank you I hope I can get some closer on this whole thing so I can be happy and not worry about him and his ex. Thanks
Toodaloo Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 He has a young child. He needs to stay in this crazy ladies good books in order to see his child. Thats it. Chill out and stop being so jealous. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 In the grand scheme of important issues like child support, mental illness & shared parenting, FB is meaningless so take it out of your analysis. If this guy shares a child with this EX, she will be in his life FOREVER. If you cannot handle that, don't get involved with him. Even if co-parents are not a problem for you, this chick may be. She's violent (she smacked him) and he damaged his car. Personally I wouldn't want to expose myself to that level of drama. If he did not call the police when she damaged his car, I would lose respect for him & wonder why he is willing to tolerate her criminal behavior. It would also make me assume that if push came to shove between me & her, he'd always pick her. I would not set myself up for that level of problems. The fact that he "got scared" last time when you couldn't see each as much tells me he's needy & weak. If he's old enough to have fathered a child, he should be mature & stable enough to realize that a solid relationship does not always require 24/7 interactions. 1
Author tiffcook82 Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Yes true to both of your post thank you. He did call the cops on her that night I was there. We have been living together since we got back together. Things are better since all of that happened. I think its just going to take sometime. We both want to make it work. Just don't want to get hurt again. Thanks again.
veggirl Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Why doesn't he have formal visitation via a court order? He sounds irresponsible. If he wants to have visits with his kid, he can legally obtain them. And he doesn't pay child support? 1
Author tiffcook82 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 Hello his ex just filed for child support not long ago so yes he is paying child support here soon. She wouldn't let him see his son for awhile now and he does work just don't have the money to do all of that stuff. She just wants the money anyways thats the type of person she is.
Author tiffcook82 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 I'm just trying to figure out how I would know if she still wants him back he says he wants nothing to do with her at all. I'm not sure if I should believe that or not. Just need real good advice before it goes any further. Thanks
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