Can a man ever get string along in a serious relationship?

[ChamomileWind]

I'm familiar with this being mainly a woman issue base on countless of stories they shared when this happens and their feelings of sadness when it was all invested for nothing.

 

However, can this actually happen to a man as well too and he feeling the woman actually made him waste his time?

 

I'm not taking about friendzoning but when he actually made it past the early dating (hanging out and getting to know each other better) stage, they've been exclusively dating for the longest but he gets string along? Or is it always the woman that's ready and serious, that only the woman can be tricked into wasting time for years?

Edited December 9, 2014 by ChamomileWind

[eye of the storm]

Anyone, male or female, can get strung along. It usually happens when there is a lack of communication.

 

One person assumes the relationship is heading down a path of together forever, and the other assumes that what is going on now is just fine.

 

Once you are in what you consider a serious relationship, all kinds of conversations need to occur. The future, kids, finances/debt, religion, etc. it all needs to be worked out and openly discussed.

 

For example if you want to be married and you start talking to your partner and they are anti-marriage...you need to decide if you can live without getting married or if you need to leave the relationship.

[d0nnivain]

It's not a gender issue. Both sexes can string people along & both can get strung along.

 

 

Do you feel like this is happening to you?

[StalwartMind]

Quite so, for all the reasons listed above and more.

[central]

Marriage is one example, for some men. Once they marry, sexual frequency often declines, especially after a couple of years or a couple of kids, never to recover. They are strung along with duty sex - if they're lucky. Just enough to make a decision to leave difficult, but not enough to meet their needs, despite them providing for everyone else.

[ponchsox]

Absolutely. I did. It turns out she had no desire to get married or be committed to a person despite talking about marriage and using me the entire time. I sensed it along the way, and ended up getting burned.

[Gloria25]

Absolutely. I did. It turns out she had no desire to get married or be committed to a person despite talking about marriage and using me the entire time. I sensed it along the way, and ended up getting burned.

 

See what I highlighted ^^...I think a lot of people see red flags and they don't care to acknowledge them. They probably think things will change, have too much invested, etc. So, while the signs are there, they are plowing through.

[ktya]

I'm familiar with this being mainly a woman issue base on countless of stories they shared when this happens and their feelings of sadness when it was all invested for nothing.

 

However, can this actually happen to a man as well too and he feeling the woman actually made him waste his time?

 

I'm not taking about friendzoning but when he actually made it past the early dating (hanging out and getting to know each other better) stage, they've been exclusively dating for the longest but he gets string along? Or is it always the woman that's ready and serious, that only the woman can be tricked into wasting time for years?

 

Yes. My ex fiancee did this to me. Damn near killed me. At 6+ years i proposed, she accepted. Less than a year later she had no interest in planning our wedding, and was more interested in going on an exchange program to south africa for six months instead. Turned out she was having multiple affairs. When she broke up with me (with a note on the dishwasher, i might add) she told me all she did was tell me what i wanted to hear, even the proposal with the crying nearly burning the house down and everything.

[ChamomileWind]

Thank you all. No, d0nnivain this isn't happening to me but it's sad when I read those stories. It's like I could be one of those women too. Though I do agree that most of times there are signs telling you when it's getting no where.

Yes. My ex fiancee did this to me. Damn near killed me. At 6+ years i proposed, she accepted. Less than a year later she had no interest in planning our wedding, and was more interested in going on an exchange program to south africa for six months instead. Turned out she was having multiple affairs. When she broke up with me (with a note on the dishwasher, i might add) she told me all she did was tell me what i wanted to hear, even the proposal with the crying nearly burning the house down and everything.

Damn that's something a very cold and selfish person does. To break up with a note instead of face-to-face was cowardly of her too. It sucks how one rotten apple can spoil this for all the other good ones.