3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I've been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months. We see each other about once or twice a week. She is a single mother of a 3yr old girl and the father is a scumbag from what she tells me. We started off really good and the sex is amazing. we've gone out numerous times she comes over a lot and every time we hit the sack. Most of the time she is initiating it. We text most of the time, but curiously she stops texting all of a sudden. There is no real end of the conversation...just stop. It's weird. Then she'll text me the next morning like nothing happened. I called her out on it because i got tired of it. I told her we're just on different pages and stages of life and that I needed more. I told her she could come get her stuff and that it was ok. she starts saying that she has always been bad at communicating (that's just her) and that she's not use to worrying about other people besides her daughter and that she'll try to do better....Then she said this is why I don't let people in, see how quickly you want to cut ties with me. I told her I didn't AT ALL, but I can't be falling for someone that's giving me nothing in return. she came over the next day after we had the talk, and I told her I was falling in love with her and she was driving me crazy. I wasn't expecting a response but she smiled all huge and started kissing me and then we ended up in the sack. Since then she has gotten distant so I reciprocated it. Then she contacts me and ask me what my plans for the day were one morning. I told her I have plans, but if she wanted to stop by she could. She comes over and we talk for a while and then she tried to get me to have sex with her, but I didn't and told her I had friends to meet. We didn't talk for the rest of the day. She did however come over yesterday and was acting kinda distant and shady, but still, we had sex!!?? Haven't heard from her at all today which is TOTALLY not like her. I at least get a "hope your having a good day." today...nothing. Is it that she is truly that engulfed in her child? Or is there more to it than this? How can a text conversation end everyday without explanation like "goodbye or talk to you later?" they all end around the 4-7pm range...just odd...what the hell is going on?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I think she likes you, but doesn't feel the same way about you that you do about her, i.e. she's not falling in love. It sounds like she's not looking for a serious relationship with you but enjoys your company, and the physical affection and sex. I would wager that her recent distance is because she realizes you have stronger feelings for her than she does for you. I would take a big step back. 1
sillyanswer Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Or is there more to it than this? How can a text conversation end everyday without explanation like "goodbye or talk to you later?" they all end around the 4-7pm range...just odd...what the hell is going on? Somewhere in that timespan there's feeding her daughter, hopefully spending some quality time with her daughter, then putting her to bed. How about less texting and more talking: Call her.
Author 3rdone Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 (edited) take a big step back as in no contact? I am under no delusion that my feelings are stronger than hers...I get that. We went on a wine tour a couple of weeks ago before all this, and she brought up what the right time frame was to meet her daughter, that she didn't know. She even stated that maybe we need to do something together to see what happens. I just said she would know when it was the right time. She's also mentioned little innuendos about when we grow up (she uses that loosely) that "we" are getting a maid. I responded with "We are not getting a maid." She said, "Are you going to clean?" or course this was in reference to a longer convo about her daughter. I took this as wow she's thinking long term. should I let this one go, or try to see if this is salvageable? I don't want to go begging and sound all needy, but I do want to know what's going on? Am I reading to much into it? Do you think there's someone else? Edited December 9, 2014 by 3rdone
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