PersonaPersona Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I'm the dumpee, so this is kind of odd. If my ex see's me with one of our friends, he will avoid me like a plague. If they call him over, he will refuse. If I'm around him (situations where I can't do anything about it because I'm in class) he will be obnoxiously loud so that I can hear him talking, and I can assure you he isn't normally like this. Sometimes he will do something that he knew I didn't like while we were in the relationship, right in front of my face, like hold hands with his ex and be touchy with her. If there is a situation where I am in his vicinity, he will avoid looking at me in the eye. If me and one of his friends are having a one-on-one conversation with his friends, he'll come over, drag them away from me, and talk to them. Basically, I'm a plague to him. Yes, it hurts, but it kind of annoys me and makes no sense. Does anyone know what the heck this means?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 What are you talking about? You make it sound like his actions are inconsistent. They are nothing but consistent: He dumped you He doesn't want to be around you. He doesn't want his friends to talk to you. He avoids looking at you. It makes perfect sense, it's probably just something you don't want to accept: He doesn't like you.
Author PersonaPersona Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 What are you talking about? You make it sound like his actions are inconsistent. They are nothing but consistent: He dumped you He doesn't want to be around you. He doesn't want his friends to talk to you. He avoids looking at you. It makes perfect sense, it's probably just something you don't want to accept: He doesn't like you. Dumped twice, left because he kept hurting me, told me he loves me, and you say "he doesn't like me" Seriously? Don't get me wrong, I'm not in denial, if he doesn't like me then alright, but what I'm trying to say is that I believe he's trying to provoke me. So what, he does things purposely and I'm supposed to go about my day and act like I don't care?
tikay00 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Dumped twice, left because he kept hurting me, told me he loves me, and you say "he doesn't like me" Seriously? Don't get me wrong, I'm not in denial, if he doesn't like me then alright, but what I'm trying to say is that I believe he's trying to provoke me. So what, he does things purposely and I'm supposed to go about my day and act like I don't care? You dumped him? You're not being clear at all. Who dumped who, twice?
Author PersonaPersona Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 You dumped him? You're not being clear at all. Who dumped who, twice? I was dumped twice. That's why I said I was the dumpee in the first post.
irresolute Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 He couldn't care less. In fact, I think he avoids looking at you in the eyes because he doesn't even have to face your neediness. You might think he's acting like this because he cares. Quite the contrary.
Author PersonaPersona Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 He couldn't care less. In fact, I think he avoids looking at you in the eyes because he doesn't even have to face your neediness. You might think he's acting like this because he cares. Quite the contrary. At least you were blunt about it.
tikay00 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I was dumped twice. That's why I said I was the dumpee in the first post. It's over. When someone dumps you, AND they're the ones that hurt you, AND they're being dicks after the breakup, that's a horrible person. WTF..... 1
lil hoodlum Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Your ex sounds very passive aggressive to me. Sounds like he is still holding a grudge against you. You should call him out on his rude behavior, better yet, do it front of your friends.
irresolute Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Your ex sounds very passive aggressive to me. Sounds like he is still holding a grudge against you. You should call him out on his rude behavior, better yet, do it front of your friends. I don't agree. No need to confront him. Ignoring is the way to go. Seems Op still has some hope he's doing all this because he cares. She needs to change the belief in order to move on. Otherwise she'll be dumped for a third time.
tikay00 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I don't agree. No need to confront him. Ignoring is the way to go. Seems Op still has some hope he's doing all this because he cares. She needs to change the belief in order to move on. Otherwise she'll be dumped for a third time. Pretty much this. Same vibe I got from OP.
Author PersonaPersona Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 Pretty much this. Same vibe I got from OP. As much as I hate to admit it, you're all probably right. I still haven't gotten used to having to see him everyday. I've kept NC for a month now though, woop.
lil hoodlum Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 If me and one of his friends are having a one-on-one conversation with his friends, he'll come over, drag them away from me, and talk to them. I should clarify. The above is the rude behavior and you should call him out on it. Yeah, the other stuff is still passive aggressive but he is just trying to get a rise out of you because he is holding a grudge against you. It is his problem but it affects you. In time you will see what a little man he is. Until then, continue holding your head high.
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