flowerpower1 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I've posted on here about my break up before, but I'm still at a place where I want him back but also want to move on. To try and make either of these things possible I've been trying to go nc. I don't text him, but have been replying to his texts about money etc. Today he text me to let me know he'd got a job offer for his dream job. I didn't reply and I feel horrible ignoring it. I want to tell him well done, but I feel like I can't because then I'm being his emotional support - so he'll never actually miss me, as I'm the only one who actually cares about these things in his life. Does that make sense? Should I have replied to be polite or was it the right thing to do?
NopeNah Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 No. You're correct about you being his emotional support. I just got a text about my ex's son and how good he's doing. She apparently doesn't know that he texts me his 'updates' himself.
tikay00 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I'd give him a simple, "awesome. Great to hear", then straight up tell him you can't keep in contact anymore, because you guys aren't BF/GF anymore, and it feels weird to you. Not only do you not come off so blunt, and tell him, "either we're in a relationship or it's nothing", but he'll actually get the hint that the next time he wants to contact you, it should be about getting back together, and not about how much it rained yesterday, or some other random BS.
Author flowerpower1 Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 I did end up replying in the end, but by fb rather than text as I've deleted his number and our chats. I just said "well done for the job, I hope it all goes well for you" I haven't received a reply though, so tbh I'm a bit confused why he told me in the first place
NopeNah Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 I did end up replying in the end, but by fb rather than text as I've deleted his number and our chats. I just said "well done for the job, I hope it all goes well for you" I haven't received a reply though, so tbh I'm a bit confused why he told me in the first place exactly...why NO reply would've been the best course of action. Just saying.
Author flowerpower1 Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 Haha, I guess you're right I'm not upset though, so that's a good thing! Maybe I'm actually starting to move forward! Thanks for your advise guys!
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Un-friend him on FB. You will not heal while you still have reminders of him around.
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