sm2281 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 You know, I was having a talk with my boyfriend the other day. I have felt uneasy in our relationship and talk to him when i do. I always tell him first, and he seems upset when I talk. And then the only thing left that I have to say if he is feeling blue about our talk is this: Look, I love you. But I understand what it means to love someone that you can't be with. Sometimes, people love eachother but are just not right for eachother. I am just adult enough to understand that just because I love you, doesn't mean it's going to work out. But we can try for now.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 You know, I was having a talk with my boyfriend the other day. I have felt uneasy in our relationship and talk to him when i do. I always tell him first, and he seems upset when I talk. And then the only thing left that I have to say if he is feeling blue about our talk is this: Look, I love you. But I understand what it means to love someone that you can't be with. Sometimes, people love eachother but are just not right for eachother. I am just adult enough to understand that just because I love you, doesn't mean it's going to work out. But we can try for now. Although I might agree with the first part of your "wisdom" I can't say that adding the "But we can try for now" part would be necessary never mind a good idea. I mean, if your boyfriend made that comment to you, would you want to stick out knowing that your relationship had an expiry date? If you know it's over, let it be over. There is no need to prolong the inevitable. And there is no need to work on anything for now particularly when you're having to have frequent talks about how uneasy you are in your relationship. Do yourselves a favor and move on. If I've learned anything about LTR is that sometimes love really isn't always enough. Good luck. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Although I might agree with the first part of your "wisdom" I can't say that adding the "But we can try for now" part would be necessary never mind a good idea. I mean, if your boyfriend made that comment to you, would you want to stick out knowing that your relationship had an expiry date? If you know it's over, let it be over. There is no need to prolong the inevitable. And there is no need to work on anything for now particularly when you're having to have frequent talks about how uneasy you are in your relationship. Do yourselves a favor and move on. If I've learned anything about LTR is that sometimes love really isn't always enough. Good luck. Not to mention that while you're treading water in a dead-end relationship, you could both be missing the person of your dreams.
Author sm2281 Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 Although I might agree with the first part of your "wisdom" I can't say that adding the "But we can try for now" part would be necessary never mind a good idea. I mean, if your boyfriend made that comment to you, would you want to stick out knowing that your relationship had an expiry date? If you know it's over, let it be over. There is no need to prolong the inevitable. And there is no need to work on anything for now particularly when you're having to have frequent talks about how uneasy you are in your relationship. Do yourselves a favor and move on. If I've learned anything about LTR is that sometimes love really isn't always enough. Good luck. I understand that love isn't always enough. But why does everything have to be so black and white? Is there really not any gray area? I think there is. You can't just un-love someone. You can't just give up and over one problem or issue. (we'll you can, but thats you.) You know? NOTHING IS FOREVER. NOT EVEN MARRIAGE. I think if you go into any relationship with the idea that it's going to last forever that person is jaeded. Life is not a competition. It's not waasting time. It's enjoying life as it is now and trying to get through things together, rather than giving up and expecting perfection to happen right away, and realizing that things are so imperfectly perfect. That is what it means to me.
Author sm2281 Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 Not to mention that while you're treading water in a dead-end relationship, you could both be missing the person of your dreams. The person of you dreams does not exist. This person is only in your mind, and if you don't know that yet, good luck finding someone who is going to continually try to meet that expectation forever.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 The person of you dreams does not exist. This person is only in your mind, and if you don't know that yet, good luck finding someone who is going to continually try to meet that expectation forever. It's just a phrase. I'm in love with a wonderful partner and I've been in long, loving relationships before, I'm aware that everyone has their flaws. I certainly do. And yet... I feel I've met the person of my dreams. I never sat and thought about who that person might be. I just live my life and partners appear when our paths cross. The person I'm with now is more compatible with me in more ways than any relationship I've had before, but does that mean there wouldn't be another great guy at some point if this ended? No. There are no 'the one's, just many 'ones' in my opinion. My point is that there will be many, many more guys out there who are more right for you than someone with whom you see no future, but agree to tread water with for a little while. Would you rather be single, and available when the next 'right person' comes along, or would you rather be wasting time with this guy knowing it has to end at some point and risk not being emotionally or physically available when someone wonderful comes along with whom you're deeply compatible and both want the same things in life?
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