Chin Up Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Was feeling pretty good about things for a bit. Not much in the way of sadness, anger or missing the ex. Now with Christmas approaching, a lot of fond, yet unwelcome, memories are creeping in. Keep thinking about things the ex and I were doing this time of year, and it's really bumming me out. I'm feeling super lonely because of it. Reminiscing over the good/fun times last holidays, and it's twisting things up in my head. Found myself entertaining ideas of contacting him on xmas day (I WON'T!) to say "Merry Christmas!", or that he will send the sentiment (HE WON'T!) and all that other garbage that comes with feeling nostalgic for an ex. Worried the holidays will back track my progress, cuz so far it seems to going that way. Lot's of Christmas parties on the way. Rubs it in my face that I got dumped and am alone. Worst is when people say "feel free to bring so'n'so!" and I have to tell them that "so'n'so" and I have split up. ahhh . Trying to stay positive and get back to feeling mostly over this, but holidays sure have a way of firing up good memories. Anyone else got the holiday blues? ..and what have you been doing to feel better about it?
Kaya Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Found myself entertaining ideas of contacting him on xmas day (I WON'T!) to say "Merry Christmas!", or that he will send the sentiment (HE WON'T!) and all that other garbage that comes with feeling nostalgic for an ex. Yea, I was thinking this exact same thing today I decided that I'm just going to nurture myself this holiday. Do the things that I want to do - read loads of books, take loads of naps, eat loads of good food and appreciate time with my family and friends - just try to be as relaxed as possible, no pressure. Hopefully I'll be feeling refreshed when the new year rolls round. I'm going look forwards, not backwards, and I'm going to consciously focus my thoughts on other things when I catch myself lost in thoughts of missing him. I try to remind myself that "dwelling on this right now is not good for my own well-being", hopefully this will get easier with practice.. Hang in there, you're doing really well! I know it's horrible to be alone during times like this - the loneliness feeling can be overwhelming, but let's try to make the most of it. Embrace it and have a nice holiday with "you" xx 1
ThreeYearsDumb Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I am right there with you. Spent yesterday making ornaments with my kid and nieces and nephews. Have your self a merry little Christmas came on and I had to excuse myself because I was breaking down. So many songs are so melancholy that I would get a little down even in a normal state. One of my happiest memories was the Christmas I spent when my ex was pregnant. We saw both our families, opened gifts for the unborn child. My ex was across the room from me, sipping non spiked egg nog and having a conversation and I was just staring at her hopefully with a warmth on my face, admiring her and thinking, that woman is my family, the baby she is carrying is going be our family, and she saw me looking at her and gave me a gentle smile and flashed her blue eyes. One of those watershed moments in our relationship I guess. The little things that only the two of us could possibly remember. This year I find myself yelling at the radio and telling the advertisers to shut the $!&@ up and switch the station. Last weekend I decided if you can't beat them join them so I spent a small fortune turning the house into a winter wonderland for my kid. She did love it and hopefully we made a memory but there was certainly the tinge of sadness, that it was incomplete because we weren't doing it all the three of us. But it did help a little so that is my formal advice. If you can't beat the holidays, then join hem. 1
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