ponchsox Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If a married woman is abandoned by her husband leaving her and her son alone, will she have a hard time committing in future relationships? Might she sabatoge a good relationship out of fear or bitterness?
Thegreatestthing Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Naturally but she'd be fairly stupid to think all men are the same as her husband. People would be reluctant to invest because they'd be thinking I invested before and lost too much therefore I won't invest again. If you want to get all strategic and psychological about it,she'd have some very nice firm defence forces set up to ensure it doesn't happen again. But I've found love to be a much mightier force than any defence system so it usually goes right down if she likes you enough,if it doesn't she doesn't like you enough,the love is weak.
Danda Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I think that depends entirely on whether she is projecting her experience with her ex onto all men, or whether she is able to see that each human being could be different. So it will not be the same for all women. It is also very possible that a woman can become bitter and have a hard time trusting future partners, but never cheats to get revenge on a man who didn't wrong her, as that would just be stupid. I would guess that women who have been wronged are way more likely to struggle with insecurity and paranoia than with issues of desiring vengeance, but that is just my strong guess. Like if you fall for a damaged woman, you will likely have to work with her to get past hurdles of not trusting you in various ways, but if she cheats on you, it had nothing to do with her being "damaged" and everything to do with her having very poor integrity. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If a married woman is abandoned by her husband leaving her and her son alone, will she have a hard time committing in future relationships? Might she sabatoge a good relationship out of fear or bitterness? the answer is no for me anyway....cheated on.... abandoned after giving birth no money nothing.......went into another relationship for fifteen years.......same thing happened again......drugs and alcohol are killers in relationships it has been poison in both my long term relationships...both abandoned.....and i truly struggled.......doesnt give me license to do the same thing to another...in fact i feel the opposite....but then i dont drink or take drugs.....both my exes know they stuffed up and have told me so..... some people might say i am destined to fall into those type of relationships being damaged goods....i have a brain ....my brain works pretty well...i know i dont deserve that treatment no matter how forgiving i am....i will not put up with it in the future...i am friends with my exes....ill never be with them again......and i wont cheat on a guy.......based on someone elses mistakes.....i have not changed my mindset on relationships.....i believe in fidelity in a relationship....i am actually celibate waiting for the right guy for me to come along..... and that is ingrained not shifting not budging....period......deb
Gloria25 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Just wondering, how do you know for sure what happened in her marriage? Even "if" the husband abandoned her - it takes two to tango. How do you know whether or not it was something she did that pushed him to that end? How do you know whether or not she knew he was a bad guy, but still pursued him, married him and/or had kids cuz she has issues with wanting bad guys? I'm not saying all divorced people and/or people from failed RLs are damaged goods - but it ended for a reason...And, IMO, it's a red flag if someone is blaming 100% on the other party. Again, it takes two to tango. 1
sillyanswer Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 If a married woman is abandoned by her husband leaving her and her son alone, will she have a hard time committing in future relationships? Might she sabatoge a good relationship out of fear or bitterness? I'm not aware of any such general behaviour for abandoned or jaded women.
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