Maxie Max Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 On Friday, my boyfriend and I were putting the final touches on plans we have for this week. He is scheduled to work on the day of the situation but he texted me that he was going to try to move things around so that he wouldn't be late. I sent a reply and told him that it would be great if he could do that!! I also told him that I am planning an activity on sunday and would love for him to join me. I gave him the times and said we could also consider going later in the week. He didn't reply. Then, for the first time - we went an entire day without speaking. On Sunday, I found out that he was with friends. It explained why he hadn't replied. It was like he wasn't able to tell me that he couldn't go because he already had plans in place. After that, I sent a text saying that I wanted to talk about our level of communication. (He should have the decency to say he can't make it) I later called him but couldn't get an answer. About 12 hours later, I called again and no answer. So I simply texted to him that I missed him. That way he wouldn't think I was just calling to jump on his case. To date, I haven't heard from him since Friday. Something odd happened. His mom activated a facebook account. She had been using his page with him for years but she finally got her own. Then, his was deleted. I don't know what is going on. I do know that I am not calling or texting anymore.
Thegreatestthing Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Sounds like he is backing out,you should move on,even if you give him some distance and he returns do you really want someone who just tosses you to the side and forgets you exist. I'm slack with communication but not with my bf,I send him at least a text if I can't talk.
mammasita Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 That's extremely rude and immature of him. I'd definitely take that as a HUGE "invitation" to leave him the hell alone and I'll echo above, even if he does re-appear, tell him to kick rocks. How long had you been together?
johan Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 How long have you been together? I agree that you should stop trying to contact him. Depending on how long you've been together, I'd likely say that this is a pretty major breach of trust. At a minimum he should be able to tell you he needs some time to do his own thing. But it does depend on how much commitment was there to start with. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Yes, stop trying to contact him. If he comes to you and has some kind of reasonable explanation and you feel you wish to continue with him, make sure you make it clear that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior again or you're out. If it were me, I'd start dating others immediately and, if he does, contact you, don't respond quickly, if you do at all.
Author Maxie Max Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 It's been 2 years. I've already stopped trying to contact him and I feel like it's the right thing to do. If he is backing out, I would have expected more from him than this. 1
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