DenverDude Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Well, I have procrastinated way too long on deleting all of our pictures on facebook. This morning, I started doing it. Talk about a walk down memory lane. She was the type who wanted to post pictures of us EVERYWHERE. I am still in the process of deleting them (hundreds) and it is just really hard. I had to take a break and write out my thoughts here to calm me down. She was beautiful and the memories were awesome, but it's time to move on. I have been talking to some girls lately and one of the girls asked about the girl who was all over my facebook page... so it was that interaction that pushed me to start removing our photos. I can't keep harboring the memories of her. I still miss her a lot but it's time. This is hard. 1
Author DenverDude Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 ooops.. mods, this was meant to be under the 'how are you coping' section.
Marco Valerio Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Yes it is hard. I did it as soon as it was possible. It took me quite a while to delete them all from my fb and my phone, but it was the right thing to do at the time. It could have been much worse by having the option of watching them all over again on difficult days. Remember, you will always have memories in your head...and those you can't delete them, sadly (in some cases).
NopeNah Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I'm not a huge facebook person. She still has our pics on her page(last time I checked)..I've got a few on my phone that i'll probably have hard copies made of and put them in the box that has 'us' in it. Then put the box back in the garage. They are my moments in this life after all. Don't feel the need to discard..at the moment at least. I have been debating on removing her from my FB page the past few days though...hmmm..
jacksonbrown33 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Well, I have procrastinated way too long on deleting all of our pictures on facebook. This morning, I started doing it. Talk about a walk down memory lane. She was the type who wanted to post pictures of us EVERYWHERE. I am still in the process of deleting them (hundreds) and it is just really hard. I had to take a break and write out my thoughts here to calm me down. She was beautiful and the memories were awesome, but it's time to move on. I have been talking to some girls lately and one of the girls asked about the girl who was all over my facebook page... so it was that interaction that pushed me to start removing our photos. I can't keep harboring the memories of her. I still miss her a lot but it's time. This is hard. I totally feel your pain and understand. My ex-gf (we broke up in late August after 3.5 years) had 30 plus pictures of her little nephew being born (not literally born, but right afterwards!) on my iPad. I was lucky to be there to celebrate with her and her family immediately after his birth. Deleting those pictures was one of the hardest things I've done since she dumped me. I am nowhere close to healed, but believe that God has a plan for me and I choose to put my trust in Him.
me85 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I immediately deleted pictures from FB after BU more than 16 months ago but it was only until 3 weeks ago that I finally deleted pictures permanently from my computer and phone. It wasn't hard and I have no regrets. But I am surprisingly sort of missing my ex lately.
Author DenverDude Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 After not seeing her for a long time, these pictures are really setting me back. I wish I did have the courage to immediately delete them when she left me, but for whatever reason I didn't want to. I think this is the final chapter. Seeing us happy in all of these pictures was really something I wish I hadn't seen. The sad thing is, there were some pretty darn good pictures of us! As I said earlier, I've been seeing some other girls, but after looking at these pictures, I feel like I am not at the point where I should go out with other girls - even though EVERYONE (family, friends, co-workers, etc) are saying that I am crazy not too. Don't get me wrong, I am having fun, and meeting a lot of people, but maybe it's too early?! What are your thoughts? I am the type of person who can't sit still. I need to be doing something and the idea of me just passing time, waiting for me to completely ''forget about her'' doesn't seem like the best idea. This one girl that likes me has everything going for her and she really likes me, but I just don't know..
ThreeYearsDumb Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Luckily she had all of the pictures on her Facebook. Once I unfriended and blocked her I had no access. Which is good because I would have looked. I struggle enough with her living in my head and seeing her when I have to that I would hate to think where I would be if I was confronted by those pictures. The time I spent with her is the best of my life so far and I really don't want the additional visuals.
BC1980 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I deleted all the pics from my phone immediately, but I still have some stashed away in my closet. I actually pulled one out and looked at it last week, and it made me feel sad. I think it's just awful when you think about the happy times or see a picture of a happy memory.
dumbass2 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I don't have any on Facebook or anywhere where I can come across them easily, but have all the ones we took stashed away in one folder on my computer where I have other great memories from the past. They are great memories and though I haven't looked at them in months, I'm not going to just delete them. they are what they are, great times from the past. There really is no reason to get rid of them as they don't make me feel sad, only happy that I was able to experience those times and it isn't necessarily because it was with her, it is just because they were great times in general and a fantastic part of my life. The parts of the relationship that I hated, there are no pictures and those are still a part of my memory in my head only. Forgive, but don't forget. New pictures and memories since her and life goes on. You can still be happy and more so if you allow yourself. 1
me85 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I do understand why someone would want to keep pictures of their own sentimental history but for me, there's just no point. My exes USED to be a part of my life but they're not anymore. They didn't die on me. If that were the case then I'd keep the pictures but they didn't die on me...they left me. By choice. The end. It helps me to get rid of all the pictures. Otherwise, it would be too easy to go and dig them up and torture myself. Out of sight, out of mind. 1
erklat Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 . But I am surprisingly sort of missing my ex lately. Me too. I deleted everything some time ago. Somehow it coincided with my return here, but both of us being vets in this, it helps when you're not alone.
me85 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 (edited) Me too. I deleted everything some time ago. Somehow it coincided with my return here, but both of us being vets in this, it helps when you're not alone. I work and go home. I haven't really done anything out in public other than grocery shop in like 6 months. And I'm ok with that. I think it's just the holidays or something. I have no idea. I have avoided looking at sappy threads on here before because that can set me back a bit. Edited December 8, 2014 by me85
erklat Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I thought it was only me thinking there are threads that set you back. :-) In my case it was probably DEC 6th, that day a year ago I sent the present to her, so I keep fantasizing about that.
me85 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I thought it was only me thinking there are threads that set you back. :-) In my case it was probably DEC 6th, that day a year ago I sent the present to her, so I keep fantasizing about that. Nope! You're definitely not alone. When I'm on here I'm on the watercooler threads a lot. I know what you mean. I remember the engagement ring he finally paid off for me last Dec and him telling me this past July that he still had it because he "still saw a future with us." I don't fantasize about that really. I do sometimes fantasize about him coming back and me rejecting him, though.
Itspointless Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I don't have any on Facebook or anywhere where I can come across them easily, but have all the ones we took stashed away in one folder on my computer where I have other great memories from the past. They are great memories and though I haven't looked at them in months, I'm not going to just delete them. they are what they are, great times from the past. There really is no reason to get rid of them as they don't make me feel sad, only happy that I was able to experience those times and it isn't necessarily because it was with her, it is just because they were great times in general and a fantastic part of my life. The parts of the relationship that I hated, there are no pictures and those are still a part of my memory in my head only. Forgive, but don't forget. New pictures and memories since her and life goes on. You can still be happy and more so if you allow yourself. I never have deleted photo's in my life. I feel like dumbass2 regarding them. My history is a part of me with its wonderful and awful moments.
feelymcfeel Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Well, I have procrastinated way too long on deleting all of our pictures on facebook. This morning, I started doing it. Talk about a walk down memory lane. She was the type who wanted to post pictures of us EVERYWHERE. I am still in the process of deleting them (hundreds) and it is just really hard. I had to take a break and write out my thoughts here to calm me down. She was beautiful and the memories were awesome, but it's time to move on. I have been talking to some girls lately and one of the girls asked about the girl who was all over my facebook page... so it was that interaction that pushed me to start removing our photos. I can't keep harboring the memories of her. I still miss her a lot but it's time. This is hard. I literally just did this. One of the hardest things I've ever had to bring myself to do.
NopeNah Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 yeah.... I should probably go ahead and delete my ex's FB... Just logged on and first thing...she was tagged in a mutual friends photo's..She looked very nice and Im sure there's soon to be pics of her and her date at the event.. Don't think i'm ready to see that! Just seeing her,now,was a punch in the gut! I'm good with pain,but not self inflicted pain. All mutual friends are deleted...Just her left..one click away...it's a website...jesus!
NopeNah Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 yeah.... I should probably go ahead and delete my ex's FB... Just logged on and first thing...she was tagged in a mutual friends photo's..She looked very nice and Im sure there's soon to be pics of her and her date at the event.. Don't think i'm ready to see that! Just seeing her,now,was a punch in the gut! I'm good with pain,but not self inflicted pain. All mutual friends are deleted...Just her left..one click away...it's a website...jesus! Done with that!..pretty much my last form of seeing stuff..feels better,so far.
gaius Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 You should save them somewhere. It was part of your life and alll those memories are going to fade into oblivion eventually if you don't. =/ And many years from now, when you're dying in your bed and the pain is no longer fresh it will be nice to have something you can use to remember. My only regret with my ex is I didn't take more pictures. 1
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