dragonfire13 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I'd like to think I'm clued up enough that if a guy contacts you randomly and inconsistently (in a typically "lazy" fashion, i.e texting, facebook message etc) there's limited interest, they're probably seeing lots of other women etc. I have three guys (including one ex) that do this random messaging. These messages are a waste of my time, never lead to genuine interaction beyond these pointless smessages so I've learnt to ignore it. This is the bit that baffles me though. Once I ignore (then usually block), they will look for another avenue to message me on. For example, if I've blocked them on WhatsApp, they will try it on Facebook (even though we're no longer Facebook friends) One odd guy responded to a Tweet from about three months ago from a Twitter account that I didn't even know existed until I got the notification off him...the activity on his page shows he last used Twitter a year ago. That behaviour seems a little obsessive/stalkerish...yet these guys have no interest in meeting up or hanging out (not that I have any desire to after this behaviour anyway). What gives?
Chemist Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If I were blocked by a girl, I'd be down right offended and not seek any means to contact her again. In person, I would cold shoulder her. If she came to talk to me, I'd turn my back and walk away. So yes, to me it seems a little stalkerish. Why would you block them for not contacting you enough though? That seems a little weird. I have only been blocked once, after I hooked up with a girl that I worked with and moved to a different city. Not entirely sure why she blocked me.. Some men don't contact that much because they are trying to play the game, you know, that whole feign disinterest so that it causes the other person to be more interested in them. If I am always contacting girls, I feel like I am being annoying, so I also don't constantly initiate, I like the girl to do it every now and then so I know she is interested and not just being nice.
Author dragonfire13 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 (edited) @Chemist, Thanks for the different perspective, I understand that a girl has to show a reasonable amount of interest for a guy to pursue. Trust me, I always respond enthusiastically when they initially broached the subject of going on a date, they just never follow through. And when I have guys who actually do contact me regularly and make an effort to go on dates, I know I must be making my interest clear. I only block them if they repeatedly ask me out but never follow through, and then "ghost"... just for them to randomly pop up again...and the cycle repeats. It just seems like a waste of everybody's time. One of these guys I've mentioned, I'd known for a while as an acquaintance. We once made solid plans to meet up, spoke that morning to confirm. He told me he'd pick me up and we'd make our way to the restaurant. 6pm came and went and no guy. I called and text. Nothing. He got in touch six weeks later, as though nothing had happened. I block guys like that. Edited December 8, 2014 by dragonfire13
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 This happens to me often when I lose interest in a guy. From past experience, they are just bored or looking for an ego boost. It has never led to anything so I just ignore. Time wasters. 1
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