freezeit Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I have an ex(?) whom I promised to have a date with again in the new year; fantastic woman but her interest level in the relationship was just so above mine from the get-go putting me in an uncomfortable position. I have some numbers of women I've met on a dating site, met most of them with some of them indicating they'd like to meet up again but just find it hard to want to do anything with them. I have a friend of about 6 months who been progressively dropping hints she would like to date and who I have been developing deeper feelings for but just cannot see a scenario where a relationship would work out. Probably the worst one for me. I don't know, I wish I could just freeze all the relationships while I'm working myself out. Part of me thinks I should just cut contact with all of them. Not sure what to do/what I actually want. /rant
Mitzimojo Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 You know what you need to do. Put it all on hold. Do the things that you want to do. Now is the time. If your intuition is telling you to, listen to it! You have at least 2 women interested in you that you just can't reciprocate not to mention all of the other dating site women. If you just aren't interested then don't lead any of them on. Just tell them you need to take some time and do it. Have fun, work on yourself, do whatever suits you. One note. If you spend some time by yourself and find that you just can't get interested in anything then you need to pay attention. Consistent non interest can mean a variety of things. If that happens see your doctor. Good luck, stay strong and don't worry. Everything is going to be amazing. 1
Driver Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 It sounds like you're not good at "living in the grey." You seem to want things to be more black and white, so you can make clear cut assessments and decisions about situations. Trying to get comfortable with the idea that you don't have to know all the answers, and you don't have to make any decisions. Sometimes the best way to live life is to just live in the moment and let things flow from one day to the next. just relax, and enjoy being single. If you want to explore yourself, you are free to do just that.
Toodaloo Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 Oh my lordy - STOP! The best thing you could do right now is just put all romantic feelings and inclinations to one side and spend a bit of time working out what you want from life and how you want to live it. Even down to the amount of mess you can or can not cope with and the amount of house work you want to do and when you do it etc. I hate leaving cleaning for the weekends for example and want them free so I can do other stuff instead. The week is for work, weekend for play but I know many who do a cleaning session at the weekends (which would drive me mad on a regular basis)... Its the little things as well as the big. When you know how you want your life to be look for someone that compliments that. You don't seem to have any clue and your apathy to all these women makes me think you would be better off with out them (and they better off with out you!). Find someone you DO want to be with and stop thinking that you have to be in a relationship regardless of if anyone is actually happy in it or not.
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