gypsy_girl Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I work with a male capricorn. For over a year we flirted with and got to know each other but nothing came of it. During that time we both got into relationships with other people. He broke it off with her, but I stayed in mine remaining unhappy and longing for him. When he finally did make a move, it was so sudden and unexpected. He knew I was still living with my man, but still he pursued me. One thing led to another, and I did something I am not proud of, but we had a 2 month long affair. Fast forward to the last real conversation we had... He expressed how he hated that I go home to him. I told him there is nothing left there, and I want to move out and be with him. He then said "I'm a nice guy but a bad boyfriend". (red flag!) Our "whatever we had" ended about a week later, when he just phased me out of his life. We were supposed to go on a trip together, but he stopped texting me, and suddenly was too busy to hang out before that trip took place. I suspect he got back together with his ex, and I'm hurt that it ended that way, but I've realized I deserve better and I've moved on. So the reason I'm here is to get a better understanding of what goes through the male mind. We went from intense passion and talks of the future, to him completely cutting me out in a matter of days. When he did cut me out, I sent him only 2 texts, I asked to hang out after work once, and then finally I texted once for my stuff back (which he ignored when I asked to come pick it up, so handed it to me at work instead). I didn't harass him, or ask why, I gave him space, I smiled at him while passing by at work, but never tried to initiate a conversation. So now we come to the present where it's turned into him completely avoiding me. He will literally turn and walk the other direction when he sees me. I don't get it. I haven't given him any indication that I'm going to go all psycho on him if he says hello. In fact, I've acted like I'm approachable and not bothered at all by what happened. So why the sudden change of action? I get that feelings change, he lost interest in some way or another, but what bothers me about the whole situation is, that regardless of what happened, we have enough of a history (and he acted like I meant something to him), that I should at least deserve a hello when our paths cross. Why is he making such an effort to avoid me now when I made it so easy for him to move on? Why is he physically running away when I don't see how he has any reason to? I'm hoping that any insight from men, or better yet a capricorn man, will help me get some closure on this.
SoThatHappened Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I don't think his Zodiac sign has anything to do with it. I'm sorry you're hurting and confused over this. The only think we can do is guess as to why he's avoiding you as much as possible. The lessons learned by you should include: - Dating in the workplace is not always the best idea. Now look what you're going through. - Break things off with your current guy BEFORE getting involved with someone else. Your relationship was founded on infidelity, secrets, and lies. Add in the fact that you worked together and, there you go. I would highly advise finding another job, if possible. If not, take his lead and avoid him as well. You've extended the olive branch, he didn't take it, so the ball is in his court.
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