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elaine567 Established Member

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Go to the clinic and get tested for STDs ASAP.

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Beautiful Kisses Established Member

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Is this the older guy?

 

No.. He no longer exist to me this is a friend of the past before him that's in my own age group thank God!

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I am not sure why he hasn't answered, but maybe it's because he is having sex with someone else.

 

You should ask what his intentions are and if he wants to date/relationship or just fun.

 

OK I made a mistake by not asking beforehand.. I realize this now, please don't judge & crucify me for not being perfect.

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You handled the situation really well, OP. We can't change the past but we can learn and become healthier to ourselves going forward. You asserted your new boundary of no unprotected sex going forward, and you are also acknowledging to yourself that you can't really trust him anyway and so you have to make a decision based on you and not on trust in him, which has proven to be taken for granted on his side, since he's not upfront. So you're not denying/deluding yourself. Perfect recovery after a whoops. Glad you two talked it out.

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Go to the clinic and get tested for STDs ASAP.

 

Actually, she might want to wait. Some STDs take up to six weeks before they appear in tests. OP should wait until at least six weeks have passed since their first sexual encounter (if it hasn't been six weeks already). She may want to wait even longer because if this guy started sleeping with the other woman AFTER he began sleeping with OP, then it would take even longer for her tests to show up positive if there were any diseases transmitted.

 

OP, you will need to specifically ask for a herpes test, because otherwise they won't give it to you. HSV2 isn't covered by the vast majority of standard STD tests so you will need a separate one.

 

Condoms do not provide 100% protection against STDs. And depending on the site of infection, condoms may not protect at all against herpes. OP, good on you for wanting to be careful, but next time insist on the truth before you even get started. And good luck.

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