msalek89 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Hey everyone, well this is my situation. My sister is a freshmen in high school; since the first week of school she’s been telling me that her science teacher is very cute, nice, and that I should meet him. I never paid attention to her due to the fact that I always busy. However, she always came home saying positive things about him; he likes my favorite rock band, he’s 23 like me, etc. Presently, my sister has a D in his class and 2 other classes so I decided to schedule a conference with all three teachers. I emailed the teachers including him, and we decided to meet Thursday morning. We went to his class first. We arrived earlier than him to his class. Two minutes later; my sister and I are complete opposites physically and mentally so I was able to see the reaction on his face. I don’t think he expected me to look the way I did. When I saw him, I couldn’t believe that my sister was right; he is very cute. We went into the classroom and he asked if I was my sister’s oldest sister since I looked young. He kept things professional and we spoke about my sister’s grade and what she could do to improve. At the end I told him that he could reach me via email if he had any concerns about my sister. When I left his class my heart was beating 1,000 beats per minute. I felt anxious, nervous, happy, butterflies in my stomach, all sorts of feelings that I have not felt in a while. My sister told me that he was “checking me out” the whole time and that I should of left him my number as an excuse. I felt like that was inappropriate and I am guessing that teachers can’t have that sort of communication with their students family. However, I decided to not over think things (something I temp to do a lot) so I email him saying “It was nice meeting you Mr. Williams. Thank you for looking out for Emily, I appreciate it. Like I said e-mail me if you have any concerns about her. Also, I forgot to leave you my number in case you can't reach me via e-mail 555-5555. Thanks again and have a great day.” I didn’t call him by his first name because I found it to be rude (maybe I’m an idiot, I don’t know). He replied right away saying “It was nice to meet you too. I'm glad to see you that you care about your sister. I have also have two younger sisters that care deeply about. If you need to reach me here is my number 555-5555.” I felt really happy when I saw his number. I felt that if he didn’t like me than he would have replied saying “likewise, we will keep in touch” or something similar. Aside from finding him cute, I am also intrigued about how he started teaching since that is my future career path. And I thought to myself, I should start the conversation slow and then ask him to hang out or something. So I emailed him back saying “Yes, I care very much about her and I just want her to do her best. Actually, I wanted to ask you something personal, I hope you don’t mind. Emily told me that you are around my age and I was wondering how you got into teaching. What requirements are needed? I would like to get involved with a school too so your feedback would be helpful. Thanks.” Today is Sunday and I still have not heard back from him. Of course I am thinking about waiting until he replies to my email but if he doesn’t how should I go about it. Should I text him? He seems like a guy that I would like to get to know and I wouldn’t like to let the chance go. Thanks for all the feedback and advice guys!
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 You should leave him alone until he is no longer teaching your sister. 3
NJ123 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Seems like it would be a really bad idea. Since it might put him in a weird position in terms of your sisters grades, since what if she continues to do bad in the class? It would be awkward for him to fail your sister while you're dating him.
Author msalek89 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Well she is actually improving her grade in his class and he had nothing bad to say about her attitude. He told me that she was trying and that she was scoring high on the quizzes but not doing the HW, so I am sure she won't fail the class. Plus she goes to tutoring. That's not something I would want, but it sounds reasonable, now I have his number and I could contact him again when the year is over I guess.
deathandtaxes Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 You should leave him alone until he is no longer teaching your sister. Because if/when it heads south, guess who is still in the guy's class? You gotta pass this one on for now. It's called boundaries. 1
NJ123 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Because if/when it heads south, guess who is still in the guy's class? You gotta pass this one on for now. It's called boundaries. Yeah, that's another thing too. OP, you should wait until he's not your sister's teacher anymore.
Author msalek89 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Yea it sounds like a better idea. Thanks for helping me realizing it before i do something stupid.
hoping2heal Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If he is any kind of professional, he would not try to be your friend nor your romantic partner. I suppose there could be some arguments over whether him dating you would be truly unethical or not and I suppose since it is your sister and not your child...but it would be tacky and frowned upon in the least. Also, tbh it would be hard to take you seriously if you are asking how to become a teacher. At your age you need to be self-sufficient enough to figure these things out for yourself. Trying to hit him up as a mentor and a romantic partner in one does not bode well.
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