I gave him an out and he didn't take it.

[bookthief]

I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks, fairly casually. His interest levels seemed to dip slightly recently in texts, and I'm fairly sensitive to that sort of shift, so I've been readying myself to move on. He'll be moving away for a while soon, so I asked him if he'd like to call it quits. I was completely baffled when he seemed genuinely hurt and confused by the suggestion, and said he'd like to keep seeing me.

 

But now once again I feel like I'm trying to get blood from a stone in terms of communication and arranging a day to meet. The door was wide open for him to leave; does him not taking the out indicate some genuine interest?

[Danda]

I think you made the mistake of assuming how he must feel and then formed an approach based on that assumption, instead of asking him how he feels. Now you're asking us how we think he feels. You should probably just ask him how he feels from here on out.

 

You might also consider doing a little damage control work, by explaining to him why you asked him if he wanted to call it quits (if you haven't explained that to him already). Remember that he can't read your mind, so he doesn't know that you were concerned that he might call it off.

 

But again, at this point don't assume or try to guess how he might have reacted internally. Let him tell you for himself after you explain.

 

My 2 cents advice.

[losangelena]

Yeah, that's a hard one. I tend to assume I know where things are going based on small changes in communication. It's a hard feeling, but I try and act as natural as I can and just wait and see what happens. Sometimes, my suspicions are confirmed, but sometimes they're not, and I'm pleasantly surprised.

 

Are you waiting for him to suggest a time to meet or did you make an explicit suggestion?

[d0nnivain]

His interest levels seemed to dip slightly recently in texts,

does him not taking the out indicate some genuine interest?

 

 

Yes, he decision not to walk away is an indication of genuine interest. His texting patterns are completely meaningless. Relax & enjoy your relationship. Stop testing him.

 

 

Yes, I meant stop testing with an S. You can still keep texting, with an X, him but instead of relying on an electronic device spend time together.

[elaine567]

Some people are just not that interested in text conversations, hard may it be to believe.

[Emilia]

As long as he is getting laid, he will stay put. If he cared all that much, he would have wanted to discuss the future implications of his move because he would be stressed by it.