AlwaysAKL Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Hello! I am usually a very silent lurker on here. I enjoy the advice and unique situations presented here sometimes. I have been broken up with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now. No contact, no urge to contact him...until the last week or so. I broke up with him because he has mixed up priorities about time and I felt I wasn't important to him. He is a good person, I think he is scared to commit to a relationship. He worked third and I work first and we live about an hour apart which further complicated things. Dec 5 would have been a year for us. I don't know if that is what triggered it or what but I am sooo tempted to text him. Please help me! I really don't think he would answer me if I did text him and that would be even worse for me emotionally. I guess in the back of my mind I am hoping he has changed...
JJ72 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If you went 5 months with no urge to contact him, don't give in now just because Dec 5th woulda been 1 year or it's holiday season and maybe you're feeling lonely. He knows why you dumped him. He's had plenty of time to try and make it up to you, but he hasn't. People don't change. They can modify their behavior but they don't change.
Author AlwaysAKL Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Thank you! I needed the reminder...I have been telling myself that but, it helps to hear it from an outside source.
HurtGator Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Hello! I am usually a very silent lurker on here. I enjoy the advice and unique situations presented here sometimes. I have been broken up with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now. No contact, no urge to contact him...until the last week or so. I broke up with him because he has mixed up priorities about time and I felt I wasn't important to him. He is a good person, I think he is scared to commit to a relationship. He worked third and I work first and we live about an hour apart which further complicated things. Dec 5 would have been a year for us. I don't know if that is what triggered it or what but I am sooo tempted to text him. Please help me! I really don't think he would answer me if I did text him and that would be even worse for me emotionally. I guess in the back of my mind I am hoping he has changed... Well, if you dumped him and you want to get back together with him, then you should reach out to him and be very clear with what you want to happen. Once you've expressed this, you can gauge to see if he's changed into the direction you'd like. You never know unless you reach out to him. You dumped him so he'll never reach out to you. If you're afraid he'll reject your contact, then its a chance you're taking since you're the one who dumped him.
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