Jord11 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Out of the blue she wants to take things slow, what do I do now, do I keep contacting her do I let her initiate it, do I step back ?
erklat Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Reciprocate whatever she gives if that is what you want, but do Not initiate anything. How long you've been out of contact?
Simon Phoenix Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 If she dumped you, she shouldn't be giving you the terms of the reconciliation. I think you are banging your head against a wall my friend.
Author Jord11 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 If she dumped you, she shouldn't be giving you the terms of the reconciliation. I think you are banging your head against a wall my friend. She didn't dump me, we just started seeing each other
lil hoodlum Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 The term "taking things slow" usually means keeping your options open. Be careful. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 She didn't dump me, we just started seeing each other Your ex or some random?
Author Jord11 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Your ex or some random? We met through my sisters friend, everything was awesome I went away for 2 days I got back and now she is saying she's not sure about everything, she can't even tell me how she's feeling because she doesn't even know, like what do I do now
lauri Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If she wants to take it slow with you that must mean you are coming on too strong. The simple fact you are even putting this in a message board seems like you like her WAY too much already. Just take it easy and dont put pressure on the situation. She may not be that interested in you so the best thing for you to do is back off a bit and let her come to you...if she does it'll help create more attraction between both of you.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 We met through my sisters friend, everything was awesome I went away for 2 days I got back and now she is saying she's not sure about everything, she can't even tell me how she's feeling because she doesn't even know, like what do I do now Sadly I think you scared her off. She isnt sure how she is feeling, which is not really a great sign. This tends to happen sometimes after a failed relationship before. You try to over-correct which then scares the other person off. Is it over? Maybe...maybe not. But what you need to do RIGHT NOW is not talk to her unless she tries to talk to her. Dont pressure her...dont get in her face. Let her sort it out. I would post this under the dating forum since this really isnt a breakup yet.
Elle1975 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Well it might be a few things, but who knows what? Maybe the fire burnt too hot too fast, maybe she met another guy, or maybe she got to know you well enough that she isn't attracted anymore? Whatever it is, just go live your life. do not wait by the phone. I'd consider myself single and take it from there.
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