kanga Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Do people ever fake jealousy just to seem ... I don't know. Here's the situation. For those who remember my story, it involves that infamous guy. For those new, there's a guy and we've been in a psuedo-dating period for about, well, actually it's more like five months. I've pretty much gave up and have talked to him somewhat straight forwardly about what I want. But I never get a straight answer from him. OK, last night. I met an adorable funny boy. And we were flirting. And the puesdo-dating guy was acting so jealous. He'd just kind of walk off. And at the end of the night, sitting in my car, he basically pouted and said things like I have interest in other people so he's not relevant anymore, or something like that. But then I drove him home and we made out anyway. Just curious if anyone has ever faked jealousy as a manipulation tool? I know people strategize flirting with others to make people jealous. But would someone actually fake jealousy? Second part to this question -- what the crap do I do now? OK, rephrase. I know what I have to do. I have to tell him to make a choice. If he doesn't want me, then he has to back off about me flirting or dating others. But how do I best say this? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by kanga Second part to this question -- what the crap do I do now? OK, rephrase. I know what I have to do. I have to tell him to make a choice. If he doesn't want me, then he has to back off about me flirting or dating others. But how do I best say this? This is exactly what you tell him.. what you've just written.. either he wants to date you or he doesn't. Do I think people fake jealousy.. no I don't. Do I think people sometimes become or demonstrate jealousy when by all accounts they have no *right* to.. yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kanga Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 This is exactly what you tell him.. what you've just written.. either he wants to date you or he doesn't. The best answer is often the most obvious. I think you'd all be very proud of my boldness with him the past few weeks. I've been very straight forward about things. The way he acted yesterday totally threw me off. He's such a huge flirt that I thought he'd just flirt with some girl instead of walking off and pouting. Link to post Share on other sites
prisoner Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 jealousy in men mostly comes from anger and rage. anger and rage come from repression and depression. men who do not know what they want are that way for a reason. MERIN is right. he either does or he does not. black and white. cut and dry. that is it. he either has the self esteem and confidence to handle the way things are or he does not. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Just curious if anyone has ever faked jealousy as a manipulation tool? Yes. But I think this is the exception and not the rule. I would guess that most people do not fake jealousy, but I know that I have. My reasons for this was not to manipulate necessarily but to make the person I faked the jealousy for think that I cared. Ok, so maybe this was manipulation? But I think some guys almost get annoyed if you act like you never get jealous. So, sometimes I will pretend to be jealous so they don't think I don't like them. I don't know why he would do this, but he probably didn't fake it. Definitely just be straight up with him and tell him to make a choice. He is either with you or he isn't. He has no right to get jealous unless he wants to be exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kanga Posted March 22, 2005 Author Share Posted March 22, 2005 Interesting. Interesting. Well, clearly there's only one way to really know. Link to post Share on other sites
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