barp Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 I'm a 29/M in a 2-year relationship with a 23/F. I've had a very bad month, extreme pressure at work, barely sleeping, stress tearing me apart. Not trying to make an excuse, just giving the prelude. Had an ongoing quarrel about money with the GF for some time, and yesterday in the middle of an argument I just exploded. Became extremely rude and cruel just in seconds. Yelled and called her names. She just started crying and asked me to leave. What I did, in fury. Only on my way home I realized what did I do. She is heartbroken. Didn't block me off, but barely communicates. Wants to break up, what I completely understand, but I love her from the bottom of my heart. She is my everything. I can't imagine my life without her, even a single day. She is the person I was going to marry. And now it's all gone, thanks to me... Not sure if and how will I be able to fix this, but I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive myself. Please advise...
Dontfindme Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Seek some professional help - show her, through actions, that you realize the consequences of your actions. Show her that you're trying to make an honest attempt to change the bad behaviors that drove her away.
Author barp Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Thanks, I'll do everything to fix this and to prevent it from happening ever again. 1
Dontfindme Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Thanks, I'll do everything to fix this and to prevent it from happening ever again. Good luck! I hope that it works out.
OneConfuzedGuy Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 I'm a 29/M in a 2-year relationship with a 23/F. I've had a very bad month, extreme pressure at work, barely sleeping, stress tearing me apart. Not trying to make an excuse, just giving the prelude. Had an ongoing quarrel about money with the GF for some time, and yesterday in the middle of an argument I just exploded. Became extremely rude and cruel just in seconds. Yelled and called her names. She just started crying and asked me to leave. What I did, in fury. Only on my way home I realized what did I do. She is heartbroken. Didn't block me off, but barely communicates. Wants to break up, what I completely understand, but I love her from the bottom of my heart. She is my everything. I can't imagine my life without her, even a single day. She is the person I was going to marry. And now it's all gone, thanks to me... Not sure if and how will I be able to fix this, but I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive myself. Please advise... These moments are tough. Hopefully she will realize it was in the heat of the moment and you can work through it. I know how you feel though, about not forgiving yourself. I kept bringing up past issues which I think ended up pushing my g/f of 4.5 years away to break up with me. I feel like I will never be able to forgive myself and live with that for the rest of my life. It does suck. I hope for the best in your situation and you both are able to work things out. Things like this can be a good lesson and hopefully you will get that chance to show that you learned from your mistakes. I wish I had gotten my chance.......
6Pack Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 I normally do not advise people to send flowers, but in this case, I would advise doing big things that do show how you really are sorry for doing that. You need to communicate to her (whether through flowers, write a letter etc), that the stress got to you and that you didnt mean to go off like that. Do not beg or sound weak, just let her know that you really do apologize and that you will do whatever it takes to get your stress levels under control, and that you do still want her in your life, and that you want to be in her life.
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